"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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she used to like me - make her like me again ?

johnmich

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Me n this chick were attrracted to each other a long time ago but now she doesnt.

This was back in my AFC days (i am still and afc but just a lot less than bac then)

Since then she is even hotter - the jugs on this chick are magnificent and she has a great tan.

Any body got any stories of success in this topic or any advice on what to do.

I feel an idiot cos she is stunnin and i was so stupidm, i mean she liked me but nowt happened.

Also, in our 'group' their is this guy who is good with girls. He always hooks up with her when they have both been drinkin.
Does this mean anything and can i overcome it?

Plz help or give advice on what i can try.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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This is really your 137th post? I'd think you'd have been around long enough to know better than to post something like this. People will probably tell you the same thing. Play it breezy, don't tell her how you feel. Let her see you with other women so that she realizes you are a sexual being. Kino, push-pull, blah blah blah. Honestly, it sounds like this girl is pretty high-status and you sound pretty lame. Sorry not lame, just not confident.

In my mind, there are 3 levels of DJ mastery.

1. AFC = You only get the women that throw themselves at you.

2. rAFC = Your odds of getting women in general are improving. An rAFC can get a lot of women, for sure.

3. DJ = You get to choose which women you get.

Anyway you're prolly at 1, maybe early 2. It's gonna take time to get to the final level, and you'll go through a lot of women on your way. Going through these other women is, ironically, the thing that will get you this one specific woman.
 

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Relieze.
- You had your chance and you lost it.
- If that guy hooks up with her..in ways...multiply your future troubles with getting this girl by about 5.
- She's hot, you want her back.

Now.
- Date other girls.
- FLIRT with this one, but expect nothing.
- The Future starts now and change is inevitable from the past. That doesn't mean you'll win or lose, but you ahve changed and so has she.
- Remind yourself that as far as she'd probably be concerned..you're her friend, a old crush. If she's hooking up with someone else, then you shouldn't bother.
 

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Thanks for the sound advice guys.

I know i sound super AFC, its a lot more complicated in a way but i jus couldnt be arsed writing a lot.
I really dont know why i posted this. Possibly cos im a bit bored but stil jus wanted to hear somwe advice.

Thanks guys, i think im jus gonna forget it and look at other chicks.
 

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I know what you are feeling johnmich. I have been in a similar situation before, and it still bugs me, although I have semi-moved on. I have found that if you can find closure without closing the door of opportunity on her, yet moving on to other girls, you feel better about yourself, at least I do to an extent).
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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johnmich

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What p!sses me off so much is the fact is at a party of mine, she asked me to kiss her.
Being a super f*ckin AFC dumbass B*stard i bottled it.

WTF was i thinkin. man i was such a wiener. actually i still am a little wienerish.
My god the mind boggles

:mad:
 
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