"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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She trying to play games or just really stupid?

vorbis

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Ok short story. I got a phone number off a chick on Match. (I sarge in real life as well) I rang her there last week. I got through to voicemail and left a message. She rang me back and I missed that call. She also left a message. Heres where it gets odd. She wanted me to ring her back so I did. No response. I tried then again a few days later and left a voicemail this time for her to ring me. At this stage I'm thinking she's flaked. Not a big deal.

Then today, she sends me an email saying sorry and that she thought she had saved my number after the first time I rang. She said she now didn't have my number and for me to give her a ring. I'm thinking with most phones its not that hard to find a recent number. Also given there's two voicemails, you can ring back from either. You reckon she's trying to test me here?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Thomas94305

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Ya.. she's stupid. Don't be looking for much here. She can't return a phone call now, will she keep a date or flake? etc, etc.

If it were me, I'd certainly be spending time searching for others. If you wanna give this one more shot, I'd let her know frankly and without anger.. "Hey.. if we can't make a phone call happen, it's gonna be difficult to make anything else happen. I have your number. What's a good time to call, and we'll just talk then." I'd resist stating an ultimatum (such as this is my LAST time), because that's threatening. But you're almost doing the same thing by not giving her other options.
 
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