"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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she tried to friendzone me, I said no and now she avoids me.. WTF?

joker79

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Thanks guys, that was a useful conversation. To be honest, when I rejected her friendship I was already aware that something wasn't working properly and, as a great supporter of Rollo, I was prepared. I said exactly what Rollo suggests (I remember it as it was yesterday): "I wish we could be friend... I'm looking for more... I guess I was wrong about you".
After this happened, she tried a couple of times to reach me out, texting me random **** and asking me for some advice on stuff i'm expert of... in both occasions I acted disinterested and, especially when asked for advice, I ignored her. My behaviour when I approach her is polite (I say hello) but nothing else. Maybe I'm reading more between the lines but think that a person not affected by any kind of baggage would be a little bit more friendly or "warm" (at least she should smile back). My idea is that she still see value in me, maybe more than she likes to admit, but either her ego is ****ing her up or i'm too distant and she's not comfortable in talking to me after what happened, that is that I rejected her LJBF attempt. Who knows.
What is 100% sure is that I shouldn't waste time, I do not see any point in approaching her again. I think that if she wants anything from me, she should approach me not viceversa. At the end of the story, she's the one who tried to ljbf me not me her.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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joker79 said:
Thanks guys, that was a useful conversation. To be honest, when I rejected her friendship I was already aware that something wasn't working properly and, as a great supporter of Rollo, I was prepared. I said exactly what Rollo suggests (I remember it as it was yesterday): "I wish we could be friend... I'm looking for more... I guess I was wrong about you".
After this happened, she tried a couple of times to reach me out, texting me random **** and asking me for some advice on stuff i'm expert of... in both occasions I acted disinterested and, especially when asked for advice, I ignored her. My behaviour when I approach her is polite (I say hello) but nothing else. Maybe I'm reading more between the lines but think that a person not affected by any kind of baggage would be a little bit more friendly or "warm" (at least she should smile back). My idea is that she still see value in me, maybe more than she likes to admit, but either her ego is ****ing her up or i'm too distant and she's not comfortable in talking to me after what happened, that is that I rejected her LJBF attempt. Who knows.
What is 100% sure is that I shouldn't waste time, I do not see any point in approaching her again. I think that if she wants anything from me, she should approach me not viceversa. At the end of the story, she's the one who tried to ljbf me not me her.
had you explained this in the beginning it would have saved us some time.
 
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