"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She totally went cold after first date. Wat

Naughty Fins

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It's completely odd. During the date everything was perfect, we went to an arcade, played basketball and watched a movie. Then she went cold for the next few days. Since she was completely ignoring me and talked normal with other guys I started flirting with other girls. There was even a school activity where I chose another girl in class and not her, reason being the teacher said "Choose someone whom you'd benefit working with on this project."

Then she became even colder than before, going as far as not acknowledging my existence and flirting with other guys in front of me. I'm planning to go NC and flirt with other girls. Just a few hours ago, I even got rid of the "remembrance" she gave me after the date, hehe (apparently that was the first date in her life).

So am I doing it right? What did I do wrong? Who's the one at fault?
I need someone's insight at this.

Edit: because of what she has done, I flirted with other girls and walked home with another.

P.S. I'm 15 and she's 15 too.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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She's 15, so there could be a myriad reasons for what happened, one could only guess and even if you knew exactly why, it would bring nothing to you.

Main point is, as far as you know, you've made no mistakes, so the only thing you need to learn from this is to let go. Completely. Not play games, going NC hoping she will suddenly change her mind. Forget her and pursue others.

Oddly enough, something along those lines happened to me not long ago, and the girl was almost twice the age of yours. I took the time for diagnosis and it is - fvcked in the head and immature.
 

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Your princess is in another castle. Just remain ghost. For your own sake.

Case closed.
 

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hudpes said:
She's 15, so there could be a myriad reasons for what happened, one could only guess and even if you knew exactly why, it would bring nothing to you.

Main point is, as far as you know, you've made no mistakes, so the only thing you need to learn from this is to let go. Completely. Not play games, going NC hoping she will suddenly change her mind. Forget her and pursue others.

Oddly enough, something along those lines happened to me not long ago, and the girl was almost twice the age of yours. I took the time for diagnosis and it is - fvcked in the head and immature.
nismo-4 said:
Your princess is in another castle. Just remain ghost. For your own sake.

Case closed.
Thanks for the advice!
The case is closed and all, and I guess I don't care anymore, she told a friend of hers, who is also my friend, that we're awkward together? Like what? We were best friends before. The only thing I did was talk normally, mixed with a little flirting.

When my friend told me that I was like "The fvck?".
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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