"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She told me we should take things slow.. wat should I do??

YoungSir4sho

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1st.. We met online last week. From the 1st day we talked on the phone, we started talking for hours. From then on we started liking each other n got used to talking n texting each other for hours. When I come home from work at like 11am, we start talking for like 5 or 6 hours. Send like 100 texts a day.. Yea I kno its not good but hey we liked each other alot. Even tho we still haven't seen each other at that point.

We talked about our Future, like havin kids,a house,family,goin on vacations. It sounded so good, I thought she wanted to hear all of that.
So I finally saw her 2days ago. It was a 3hour trip cuz she lives 3hours from me. We talked n stuff, went to the hotel. Yea we ****ed n stuff. Later on tho she was saying that we need to take things slow n stuff n that she needs us to get to know each other better... lol I mean we talk all the time how much more can she know about me?? She says that it was diff from how we b on the phone. Im like yea cuz we aint used to being wit each other in person.

We r not in a serious relationship yet, just talkin exculisvely. So I want to know what should I do now?? She says that she still cares for me a lot but we should take things slow but she still wants to talk on the phone,misses me,text a lot. When I stopped textin n tried to not talk to her that long yesterday she texted me sayin that im changin n that she is not gonna chase after me. Then I say im not changin then try n talk to her more.

I do want this girl as my girl.. But I don't think im going at this the right way.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Sorry to bust your bubble but the chick doesn't dig on you as much as you dig on yourself. All of this rubbish talk on the phone, Instant Messaging, Iphone vs Blackberry is just a trap.

It's instant communication for an instant relationship.

You have to build a solid foundation as friends first, IN PERSON, then move on to the next stage of the relationship and discover common goals.

You really expect, " 'til death do us part", from a girl you talked on the phone with for a couple of hours then banged her over the arm of a hotel couch?

You need to prioritize and fix yourself before you get in ANY serious relationship.
 

YoungSir4sho

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U still got the same aim name right from b4? Get on it, ill im u on aim real quick..
 
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