"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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she thinks I'm sexy.... according to her mate..

MrNiceGuy

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the other night I was out with my flatmate and one of her friends, when the friend (lizzie) was away, we were having a conversation about how girls in the pub and that I needed to get laid, then my flatmate said to me.
"oh, lizzie said she might want to shag you"

trouble was this lizzie girl seems a bit neurotic, in that she kept having mood swings and occasionally getting into a stop..

I didn't really get much chance to flirt with her, plus I wasn't that drunk and neither was she..
if I'd been more hammered I'd have probly gone for the lunge when she left to get a taxi..

I quizzed my flatmate about it in the morning, and she had said that lizzie had said to her I have "a certain kind of sexiness" which had come about because my flatmate thinks I need a haircut and lizzie likes my hair longer..

well, next time I see her, hopefully she'll be in a better mood, and I'll try to go for a snog.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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MrNiceGuy

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yeah, as long as a I ignore the usual self doubt I should be fine..

but part of me can't quite believe it.. even after my flatmate told me I didn't notice any interest signals, but then if she's not in the right mood she probly wouldn't be giving them off..

I've no idea what difference it makes but my flatmate is a woman not a bloke.. we've been living together for 4 months now, and she's noted the lack of action I've been getting and the fact that the couple of potential threads of interest have all fallen thru for some reason or other, therefore its partly become her mission to get me some sex... still I doubt she would make something like that up completely. I reckon she forced the issue, in that she started asking lizzie if she liked me rather than her saying it spontaneously, still who knows..

this lizzie girl clearly has some issues she's dealing with at the moment, and I guess my flatmate figures she can cheer both of us up by getting us to sleep with each other, and I suppose at the end of the day I'm ok with that :) the only other issue is that shes probably almost 10 years older than me, what with me being early 20s and her early 30s, but shes still an 8 or 9 by anyones standards

provided I've had a few more beers next time, I shouldn't have a problem just going for it even if she's not showing obvious interest signs.
 

Austin Allegro

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Mr NiceGuy, good to see another UK DJ on here.

But why are you concerned over whether this girl is interested in you? This is not the way of the DJ.

All that matters is if YOU are interested in HER.

I used to spend hours wondering if women liked me, and even used to try and find out from female friends if their friends liked me...and this was at the age of THIRTY!!!!

By all means go for this girl, if she is not interested she will soon make it apparent.
 
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