she thinks i lie to her

[helljumper51]

ok. now my girlfriend and i are very close. but now she went off to college and i am still stuck in high school. anyway, we were talking one night and the subject came up abotu condoms. and i told her about one time that mine fell off, but i wuickly put it back on before we did anything. and she was offended saying that i should have told her. i told her i didnt know and i am sorry. well now she doesnt even want to share a room with me becuase she doesnt want to sleep with a liar. honestly, i have lied to her twice. and one was about the price of her necklace and the other was about not having an orgasm and i told her i did so she wouldnt feel bad. she still says that she doesnt know if she can trust me. we have been dating for about a year now. can anyone help? how do i convince her that i dont lie to her? also, i cant talk to her cuz we agreed that studies come first and that i wont chat to her at college unless she chats to me.

 

[DJDamage]

You know what I think?! I think that the condom is not really the issue in her head.

She probably wants out of the relationship but is the type to not want to be the bad guy. Since you gave her a reason (ammo) to be "supposed" mad at you, she is using that excuse to make you the bad guy and thus guilt free if she dumps you.

If she is a decent woman, this thing will blow over.

Oh and by the way stop getting caught in lies. If its a small white lie such as price of a necklace or that you didn't cvm, you don't need to share that with her. Just lie and move on or try not to be caught in a situation where you have to lie.

Trust me she probably lies to you just as much and now she is probably lying to you for the reason she says she is really mad.

 

[shaunuk]

huh, a comdom slipped down a little during sex and you didn't tell her, so now she's getting weird with you...

jeez...do nothing. You've already apologised, don't do it again. She's pulled back, so you should follow suit and pull back for a while. Have a little less time for her, especially when she's getting sketchy and moody about nonsense bullshyt like this.

There's also the possibility that she's making a big deal out of this as a means of pulling back and creating distance between you two because she's interested in other guys at college. You might be surprised how college 'changes' people...She's now away from home and meeting a lot of new people, many new guys and she may well have found herself wanting to hook up with one/some of them..

Is this now a long-distance thing? I'd advise against this sort of thing anyway, you're a kid man, you don't need a girlfriend 500 miles away at such a young age.

 

[helljumper51]

well she goes to an all girl school(weird i know) and idk. i mean she never seemed to lie to me. and in that conversation before, we were talking about all about what we wantt o do for our anniversary, one year. we dont celebrate that 1 month crap. and then all of a sudden we talk about why condoms are uncomfortable for guys. and bam. she has got me saying it fell off once. idk. i love her so much. but idk. i am hoping things will heal. she usually thinks to much about things anyway. i just hope her friends arnt like.."oh he lies cuz he is a guy" kinda crap. cuz women at a liberal all girls private college hate men. basically.

and i dont think she wants out cuz with ehr two boyfriends before. she dumped one becuase she was getiing bad grades and he was controlling. and the other for forcing her into sex. she iis the kinda girl who does what she wants and is nto afriad to tell you what is going on. no beat around the bush bull****.

thanks for responding so fast guys.

 

[thechallenger]

its a pretty good que that when suddenly the small stuff is made huge by her (not during ovulation cycles) there is an underlying issue i call a firecracker. you light the fuse to view the bang. dont supplicate whatsoever grab your balls and say Want Some!

 

[thechallenger]

its a pretty good que that when suddenly the small stuff is made huge by her (not during ovulation cycles) there is an underlying issue i call a firecracker. you light the fuse to view the bang. dont supplicate whatsoever grab your balls and say Want Some!