"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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She tells her friends she has me "wrapped around her fingers"

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So I was thinking about asking this girl to prom, (lets call her "girl A") and randomly today, her friend (girl b) and I start talking. I haven't told anyone I was planning on asking "girl a" but me and "girl b" get on the topic of who I am going with. I said i'm not sure, and then she goes on to tell me that "girl a" says I am her backup plan. So of course I instantly start to think, NEXT, but then "girl b" goes on to tell me how "girl a" says that she has me wrapped around her finger, and that I am her b****. Now, prom is about 3 weeks away and it looks like girl a's first choice is going with somebody else. So what should I say to her if/when she asks me, and what should I do about her in general?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I wouldn't like being a back up plan. Find another date. Make it quick though, last minute preperations suck for girls.
 

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find a date fast. adn if she brings up the topic say "I'm sorry i have a date. if she had said no, then maybe i woulda considered you..but she didnt :)"
 

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ha just drop the "if she had said no" stuff

If you get a date, and she asks. A simple "Can't babe, got a date already"

make sure its a cute girl too ;) it'll add to the jealousy
 

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I'd be a real bastard and not tell her until the last possible moment. Screw her out of any date whatsoever.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Also, if I don't end up finding another date, should I next her anyway and go single?
 

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Firstly, say to her:"you think you got me wrapped around your finger?? think again. You can play your stupid little games somewhere else because even if you are the last person on earth, i will not go to the prom with you."
You next girl A and if girl B is hot, ask her to the prom.
 

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tell her maybe we should go, but youre not sure right now. cut it off at that, i mean whatever you have to do change the subject.

then get another date. next time prom comes up in a conversation (force it at some point that isnt cruel, but not comfortable either...maybe two weeks before prom?) mention like its jsut another fact "oh yeah, i'm going with alicia" or whatever. if she reacts badly, says "sorry, you were my backup plan"

if you cant find another date, take her. the first statement i told you to make to her will keep her wondering until you officially ask, at least winning you some hand back.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Dodgeball said:
sounds like girl b is a tad jealous?
ah a possibility! now you'll have to look through your catalogue of ioi's you've noticed from girl b and see if there is any possible attraction. i was gonna say, it seems like a realllllllly ballsy thing for girl a to talk about with her friends, and a reallllly traitorous thing for girl b to tell to you.
 

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It makes perfect sense.
 

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No, girl B isn't jealous. She is the hot female friend of mine that always hooks me up. Still don't know what to do about girl a.
 

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I think having her saying you're wrapped around her finger is a perfect opportunity to change the situation around.

And there is nothing wrong with being a back up plan. There are hotter guys out there than you.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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