"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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She technically did not cheat

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We've been together for 6 months. We had a break for a month. Then we got back together and have been official for the past 2 weeks and i'm just now hearing about how she hooked up with 2 other guys during the break. I hooked up with another chic and admitted it to her before we got back together. So it kinda evens out.

Technically she didn't cheat because we weren't official. Now i'm back together, we've done all the making up part and i'm seeing improvements in our relationship but her past is fvcking with my head. How should i handle this? Should i just call her a slut and dump her or should i really continue with this chic as she shows signs of improvement. Keep in mind, i haven't had sex with her in a month.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dude it became official! Just relax and take it step by step. Is she being all deceitful, being cold and/or flaking out on dates and what not? If she "hooked up" with 2 other guys during the break, but she's with you NOW, shouldn't that tell you the clear message?!

Besides, you have no right to be all caught up in her past since you did hook up with another girl during the break too! So just relax and ride it out, and be sure to have fun with the relationship

PS: you think a WHOLE month of waiting is bad...? ask plenty of other DJs here. I'm sure plenty of us guys here had blue balls for 2months and up!
 
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Who called it off? Who's calling the shots? It doesn't sound ideal. I don't know how it all pans out, but if it's satisfactory to you, then sure.
 
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She doesn't know that i know about the 2nd guy. I just found out today. Should i bring it up to her or no? Ever since we've been officially back together it's been improving a lot except for not having sex with her again since the officialness.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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This is why breaks never work.

As someone else asked, who called for the break? If she called for a break, hooked up with 2 guys then wanted to get back with you, that's as good as cheating in my opinion.
 
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In my opinion, it depend what type of man you are...can you let things go as knowing she banged 2 huge ****ted sweaty men other than you or are u the kinda guy to just say "f uck it" and contine what yall have......personaly i have a double standard and if i loved the girl i doubt i could stay with her knowing all thos horrible sluty facts.

And its not even b/c she ****ed 2 and u only got one so even the score or **** her one last time and leave her.

Good Luck
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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you have two options:
get over it and get happy with her OR get over her and get happy on your own.

weigh them for yourself.

get the other dudes outta your head, you were both on the break and it doesnt count. the other chick you were with doesnt count either. if the two of you bring the events up ever, then it means that you cant move past it and that it isnt going to work out between you two.
 
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The fact that you BOTH went with other people shows that neither of you really love each (I think you might have done it to make her jealous though). Pretty common for most relationships IMO.

It's not going to go anywhere so either use her for sex (which you're not getting anyway) or next her now.

This technically stuff is bollocks. What stops people from cheating is their feelings for the other person, this has just given you the evidence of what she feels for you. She's only with you until something better comes along - that's probably the reason why she doesn't want to have sex, she knows it BUT still likes the fact she HAS a boyfriend.
 
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