She stopped initiating contact after 3 months of dating

[Sega Genesis]

This forum is anonymous. Also, there is NOTHING here that I have not discussed with him directly. There are plenty of things that we discuss (good, bad & neutral) that I do not discuss here.

I am VERY direct & transparent with him. If he reads....he reads. There won't be any surprises. He knows a little about occassional situations where someone reached out in DM for advice to me for example...and those situations are kept anonymous too.

There have been members along the way who have jettisoned their participation here because the woman/women in their life found out etc.

What I'm curious about is why you appear to assume I'm saying things here I wouldn't say to his face?

Perhaps I'm wrong about you making that assumption.....I certainly hope I am wrong.

I am also curious about the fascination with the details of my life as well as the focus on the negative side of things. We love one another and the relationship is imperfect. Imperfect does not mean bad. It means we are a married couple figuring it out as all married couples do given their particulars.

I mean if someone says "Aha! All is not unicorns and rainbows!!!" Well duh. Real life is not fantasy land, although its generally good.

Unlike many women I am very direct and I am not conflict averse. I tell it how it is and I'm honest. Are those tough conversations sometimes? Sure. Do you want the truth or do you want someone to blow sunshine up your backside? I want the truth, however raw it may be. He appreciates that about me; it builds trust.

Again I meant no offense @ Be and I'm not fascinated with your life nor was I making an assumption.

I asked a question as I conduct my relationships differently (privately between me snd him), and I was curious, that's all.

And although it's anonymous, your picture is attached and if he were to browse, your posts would not be anonymous.

I am happy to hear he'd be cool if he read it though. Not all spouses or significant others would be. Or that their partner shares anything personal about them or their relationship with others online or off.

Franky not sure why the need to be so defensive, I wasn’t accusing you of anything, simply asking (respectfully) and NO judgment.

 

[DJ Novice]

I’m 56. No guy in their 50s with elite looks, status and/or wealth would choose to date let alone marry a 50+ year old woman if he has plenty of much younger options. Men primarily value youth and beauty in women and a 50+ year old woman simply can’t compete with younger models in this regard.

Unless a very high value guy has very low testosterone or is completely hopeless with interacting with women/game/seduction I guarantee he will be regularly fantasising about s*x with much younger, more attractive women and most likely acting on this impulse when the opportunity arises.

I know this message won’t resonate well with the women on this forum but women simply cannot comprehend the strength of the male s*x drive and the need for variety particularly with young attractive women. It will trump love, emotional connection and all those other things that women think their partners care about more.

i think I read a study once where a group of women were injected with high doses of testosterone. Half the women wanted to have s*x immediately and the other half begged the research team to ‘make it stop’ as they just couldn’t handle the urge to have s*x.

 

[BeExcellent]

I’m 56. No guy in their 50s with elite looks, status and/or wealth would choose to date let alone marry a 50+ year old woman if he has plenty of much younger options. Men primarily value youth and beauty in women and a 50+ year old woman simply can’t compete with younger models in this regard.

Unless a very high value guy has very low testosterone or is completely hopeless with interacting with women/game/seduction I guarantee he will be regularly fantasising about s*x with much younger, more attractive women and most likely acting on this impulse when the opportunity arises.

I know this message won’t resonate well with the women on this forum but women simply cannot comprehend the strength of the male s*x drive and the need for variety particularly with young attractive women. It will trump love, emotional connection and all those other things that women think their partners care about more.

i think I read a study once where a group of women were injected with high doses of testosterone. Half the women wanted to have s*x immediately and the other half begged the research team to ‘make it stop’ as they just couldn’t handle the urge to have s*x.

Here's what you gotta grasp. The above is your truth. And it holds true for many men, granted. But its not true for everyone. People are all over the place. Hell on this forum we have a 32 year old dude who prefers women 10+ years older. I know a very masculine guy who is 60 or so who is very fit, very sexy, and has a live in LTR who he finds super sexy but he has told me he doesn't want sex with anyone more than once or twice a week. He appreciates not "seeing red" because of his sex drive like in his youth.

I have a very high libido. I do not relate at all to women who are "over it" regarding sex, and don't care if they never have sex again (a fair percentage of post menopausal women for example)...I cannot fathom that. Different things turn people on.

The issue is in expanding your perspective to a disbelief that another perspective is valid. You invalidate the preferences of others by assuming your preference applies to all. Nope.

I for example have never understood the appeal of homosexuality because I am a "strictly ****ly" straight woman. I appreciate beauty, but don't find other females sexually alluring, never have. But I'm not going to sit in judgement to invalidate homosexuals for their preferences based on my own. That's myopic and unreality.

So no, you DON'T know what turns another man on; you make the assumption that your way is the only acceptable way. Not so.

You cannot understand it. Fair enough. Leave it there.

 

[BeExcellent]

Um no he's no outcast. Don't be ridiculous. But if all that makes you feel better, superior, etc. more power to you.

 

[Sega Genesis]

I know this message won’t resonate well with the women on this forum but women simply cannot comprehend the strength of the male s*x drive and the need for variety particularly with young attractive women. It will trump love, emotional connection and all those other things that women think their partners care about more.

Well speaking only for myself I do understand it, and I didn't say nor do I believe that emotional connection should trump or be valued "more" but it shouldn't be dismissed entirely either imo and experience

It's not either/or, they both have value in different ways and at different times (in a long term relationship).

My longest relationship was six years and our sexual attraction and sex was smokin HOT the entire time! I kid you not!

He was also emotionally connected to me and I him. For him, not in a wimpy whiny simpish way, he was a strong masculine guy but he did count on me for support on occasion like when he lost his job.. From which he worked his way back up and became even more successful!

I also realize a man's need for variety, there was a post earlier that I agree with that spoke about a woman being spontaneous, never stagnant or gasp "boring," challenging him on occasion and inspiring him!

Maintaining her beauty the best she can, for both him and herself! And of course being loyal.

Of course the desire for new and different will always be there, as such, for me I don't nag him if he watches porn on occasion or admires another woman's beauty on socials or in real, etc.

I know many women feel threatened by these things which is a shame really imo.

On the other hand, there are also many women who think like I do!

 

[Gamisch]

Stop this silly argument y'all.

Who cares what she feels like about her husband? She said he has some flaws and yet some good points.

Focus on uplifting one another. This is silly and completely offtopic tbh

 

[Manure Spherian]

Um no he's no outcast. Don't be ridiculous. But if all that makes you feel better, superior, etc. more power to you.

Your posts are highly distasteful.

I have written some content that others do not like. However, it does not reach the level of your bragging and distastefulness. Here is a forum in which likely only the minority of the men have no issues with attracting women, with the rest having seriously hard times not only with women, but with life generally, as is the case with an enormous amount of men in the West in the current day! They have air-headed boomer parents who didn't teach them a goddamned thing about life and women, are fatherless, have whacked-out family dynamics, few or no friends, were poorly socialized, and attended feminized public schools. Many such men in the US aren't going to amount to much in this misandric, feminized society of ours.

Here you are constantly bragging about how everything in your life is and has been awesome and that you wouldn't give most men "the time of day" versus a polite brushoff. I estimate 95% or more of your posts are brags that are entirely unhelpful. Actually, you've recited how awesome your life is so many times that I've remembered aspects about it and your hubby without even referring to other posts of yours!

You brag in a male space likely filled with lurkers who are or are going to live alienated sh-t lives. It's terrible. Why don't you brag to some of your hot-shot peers? Do you like being a big fish in a small pond? It's tacky as all hell. I even go so far as to say you get a sadistic satisfaction from it.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Your posts are highly distasteful.

I have written some content that others do not like. However, it does not reach the level of your bragging and distastefulness. Here is a forum in which likely only the minority of the men have no issues with attracting women, with the rest having seriously hard times not only with women, but with life generally, as is the case with an enormous amount of men in the West in the current day! They have air-headed boomer parents who didn't teach them a goddamned thing about life and women, are fatherless, have whacked-out family dynamics, few or no friends, were poorly socialized, and attended feminized public schools. Many such men in the US aren't going to amount to much in this misandric, feminized society of ours.

Here you are constantly bragging about how everything in your life is and has been awesome and that you wouldn't give most men "the time of day" versus a polite brushoff. I estimate 95% or more of your posts are brags that are entirely unhelpful. Actually, you've recited how awesome your life is so many times that I've remembered aspects about it and your hubby without even referring to other posts of yours!

You brag in a male space likely filled with lurkers who are or are going to live alienated sh-t lives. It's terrible. Why don't you brag to some of your hot-shot peers? Do you like being a big fish in a small pond? It's tacky as all hell. I even go so far as to say you get a sadistic satisfaction from it.

I will ask you again, what do you add in the realm of personal experience to the seduction side of the forum?

You have stated numerous times that you’re married to a high school sweetheart in a relationship dating back to the 90’s.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

I will ask you again, what do you add in the realm of personal experience to the seduction side of the forum?

You have stated numerous times that you’re married to a high school sweetheart in a relationship dating back to the 90’s.

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Ahhh just messing with you, bro. Carry on guys

 

[Manure Spherian]

You have stated numerous times that you’re married to a high school sweetheart in a relationship dating back to the 90’s

At this point, not much. Hence I’ve cut down on posting.

I met my wife in 2010, many years out of college, let alone high school. You have me confused with someone else.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

So i have this plate that i have been seeing for 3 months. We see each other about 1 time a week and each time we have s3x and fun.

In the beginning she would complain that i didn't contact her as much as she would like to.

But i noticed that for the last 4 weeks i am the one initiating the contact. She never rejected a date or something and the dates are fun but, why isn't she chasing my attention? After 3 months she should be attached right, so what am i messing up?

I haven't texted her for a week know since our last date so see if her behaviour would change, but still no text.

I usealy just text her once a week to setup a date, but this week decided to skip.

I also am starting to lose interest because why the **** would i always put in the effort to see her and arrange activities, what would you guys do?

Why are you calling her a plate if you're worried about this? You don't get to call a girl a plate if your give a shvt about this sort of thing.