"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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She Started Qualifying: Alternatives?

Spiral

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As some of you may know, I'm relatively new to the "game," as far as being an insider goes. I'm starting to notice more things while in the moment during interactions, rather than being clueless and only having it hit me hours or even days later. That should give you an idea of where I'm coming from on this:

I was in one of my dance classes the other day, and something interesting happened. Interesting to me, of course, being new... for most of you this is minor, minor stuff. But bare with me. There is a cutie in there (among many) who I've hung out with before, but it's been well over a month and we don't really chat or anything, just have class together. Anyway, I was just messing around, not even gaming, and she happened to walk by me so I pushed her in a playful way. I kept going on my way, and she runs back up... "Spiral, you didn't say anything about my hair!" big smile on her face.

Prior to being in the know, I may have broken down, supplicated, said something stupid like "You look great!" or "So sorry! But it looks great!" and then felt really awkward for having not noticed. But something instantly clicked this time... and I said something like "It looks... good." with a kind of condescending but playful smirk on my face. She laughs, punches my shoulder and says "You're such a jerk!"

We then proceeded to have a "mock" kung-fu battle. Keep in mind we are in class and this only lasted a few seconds, but it was fun, and the situation went well.

However, just to build up an arsenal of ideas, I'd like to know what you might have done in this situation. I'm curious to see the different perspectives.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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