She spilling her whole past to me...Good or Bad?

[montybrown]

I met this chick the other night and we went out. We talked stories and we ate dinner. Afterwards, we chilled in my car while it rained and just got to know each other more. After we talking we went to the back seat and she gave me head and I fingered her. I didn't fvck her because I had no condoms. Next day, we met up and we went to the movies and then we did the same thing fooled around in the back seat of my car. Had a condom this time but it was about 3 AM and she was TIRED and falling asleep and she didn't want to do anything. Now the 3rd time I met up with her, we went to the mall together. We walk as if we're going out. Holding me, holding hands, etc. After that she wanted Starbucks and we just chilled in the car and talked. We went to a secluded area but cars kept passing by and we didn't have much privacy. I tried to fvck her again but failed. She was getting pissed because she has college exams the next night and she started crying because she' s so stressed out with it. I told her we'll go to my house next time. She agreed. I took her home and she told me to call her the next day. Which brings us to today, I didn't call her all day. Until just now, called her but no answer. Just wondering if this chick is un-interested in me or what? She keeps telling me how every guy she meets are *******s and she always has bad luck with guys she meet and I just told her to give me a chance and I'll show her otherwise.

 

[The Forms]

Hahaha, "this girl keeps giving me head. Do you think she likes me?"

OK, so this girl gave you the blueprint. She told you what she's had in the past, what she doesn't want, and what she does want. It doesn't get much easier than that. You just fill in the blanks. All she's asking is for you to NOT be a douche. That's pretty doable. I had a girl like this about two years ago. It ended quickly and poorly, though.

I might as well be the first of many to comment on how you told her that you just "want a chance to show her your not like the other guys." They call this qualifying. You've made her the prize and you told her you'll jump through hoops to get her. This is generally not the best way to do things. It shifts the power to her. It makes it a forgone conclusion that she's worthy of you, and that you have to prove that you're worthy of her.

After a statement like this you are going to go out of your way to show her that you're not like those other guys. Which isn't necessarily a bad thing to do (showing her you're different), but you don't really want to TELL her this is what you're going to do. You might as well just say, "hey, I'm going to do whatever I have to to impress you and make you think I'm a special boy." That's not so suave.

 

[montybrown]

yeah I know I had to feed her some bull****.. I mean really when she tells me all guys she meets are ****in *******s and what difference would I be... theres really nothin else for me to say. unless it's a sh!t test? but i'm stumped there.

 

[The Forms]

When I hear a girl say "all guys are *******" that's usually a red flag for me. It could be a **** test on her part, or maybe she's just venting and being upfront about what she's scared of in getting into a new relationship, but either way it usually means "issues" that I might not want to deal with.

However, if I DO really like her and am willing to deal with those issues, then it would likely go down like this:

"All the guys I date are *******s"
"Well you probably shouldn't date the *******s. That sounds like an aweful idea. They don't make good boyfriends at all."

Then smile and let out a little laugh. Then you move on to something else and make a mental note: "don't be an *******." This is kind of like a fair warning that she's on the lookout for ******* behaviour in you.

From here do the obvious: Don't act like every other douche bag girls have to put up with. Be classy.