"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Napalm

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This girl who I can tell is attracted to me sits right beside me in one of my classes. I'm interested in escalating things, but I also know that if I don't escalate properly, things could get awkward. My question to you all is: should I take her out with my friends first as a "primer" before taking just her out, or, considering that she's sent some fairly strong IOIs (very touchy, big smile whenever we talk, laughs at all my stupid jokes, etc.), would it be reasonable to skip the primer? (NOTE: Someone will probably mention that if she and I go out and break up within the semester, things could get awkward. I'm aware of this and I agree that it COULD get awkward, but I tend to handle breakups pretty diplomatically (i.e. usually neither of us is all that put off by seeing the other soon afterwards), so this angle isn't that offputting to me.)

Thanks in advance.
 

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I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

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VSTbeserk

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I don't think taking her out with your guy friends would be a good idea...i mean what if she starts liking one of them.
 

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VSTbeserk said:
I don't think taking her out with your guy friends would be a good idea...i mean what if she starts liking one of them.
Even worse, she feels uncomfortable...
 

BluEyes

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Don't do that.

Afew of my buddies have done that, and it never works out.

Bring her out with the boys once she's 'yours'.

trust
 

Sean O

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If she's giving such strong IOIs, I doubt you have anything to worry about. Hell, I once had a fling with a girl who sat beside me in one of my classes, and I actually ended up kissing her within a day. It worked because I could tell she was attracted to me, just like in your case :up:. So yeah, just go for it, bro.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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