"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She shows light flirting but has a bf she has never talked about

PeterCrouch

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Makes me thinks shes a bit of a AW. So how do you play these girls perfectly?

She flirts lightly at work with me in the few shifts we've worked together but i heard through conversation with someone else she has a bf. She's never mentioned him to me but to be fair, it's never really come up.

Although her first conversation with me was about this creepy guy we work with chatting her up and i was teasing her saying they'd make a great couple etc...She was loving it. Then she spotted her name wrote down on a bit of paper randomly and she claimed I did it because I liked her but I said how I wouldn't want to upset this creepy guy and try it on with her. I'm now always teasing her about this guy and also about how she's a fool because she does so many hours at our work place. Never leaves the place.

Anyway, theres a girl we work with who's birthday it is Friday night and we're all heading to this bar, (although i'm going to have to turn up a little late) and this girl who's birthday it is mentioned that the first girl has to get permission from her bf if she can come. This girl has never mentioned about her bf to me so how do I go about playing it from now on, and especially on friday night.

I'm working 1 shift with her before Friday night also so how do I play it around her now?

Take the attention away?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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trent81

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Don't stick your divk in the cash register. Dating chicks at work? Ones with boyfriends? Good Luck. This is headed for the archives.
 

Blue Phoenix

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Flirt back

Say "hey I´m going xxxxx if you want to come, you´ll be welcome"

See her reaction, if she doesn´t jump in

Put her on the back burner, beware she´s going to flirt more to restore her control (your attention).


Yeah, having a BF, flirting with other guys, and being evasive with you is a typical AW move. Her goal is to boost her weak ego at your expense. Most of the times they´re not even aware of this as they´re used to doing it.
 

horaholic

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Why are you even posting about this? Seriously? Chicks flirt with guys they know. Take it as a compliment, but dont read into it. You've been on this site for four years. You should know better. Flirt with all girls, but never expect anything. If she shows REAL ioi's, and you fukk, great If not, you still have fun, and you will be hitting on other girls, right? You're going to a bar, for Christ's sake. There just might be another girl or two there, and you have social proof, right there.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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