"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She showing me any sings??

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:nervous: Hello everyone. I am in high school, and this really hot girl is always cheking me out.. Everytime i lough, or do something crazy she always looking AT ME. She loughs and looks at me. Sometimes she cant get her eyes off me for like 5 minutes. She sits next to me, and like she tries to tell me "comen u shy faq, ask me out" YES that what i think she is trieing to tell me. And when we are dismissed from the class, she always walks slowly, I think she does that so i have time to approach her! She showing me any sings?? Or she just looking at me becouse i am soo ugly, which i am not.. And if she rejects me, what should i say to her back? If she doesnt reject me what should i say then.. Where should i tkae her out?? I dont wanna go to the movies or to EAT! I mean comen!! Eating and movies is like common places to go!! And amusement parks are all closed now.. And she is realllly hot!!! :cuss: HELP!! :wave:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Don't be a chicken, ask her out. It is blatantly obvious that she wants you to ask her out...she even said so you fag. :rolleyes: ;)
 

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Maybe just try getting her cell phone number for starters and then give her a call and get to know her more before asking her out.
 

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HOw can i get her cellphone without even knowing her. i dont think she gonna give me it. And i suck at rollerskating, last summer i broke my arm trying to learn rollerskating, and i dont want that to happen when i am with a hot babe. But anyways thanks for helping me@!!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Yup thats a good one luke, i will try that. And i tought of taking her to play volleyball becouse we take voleyball in school and she sucks at it.
 

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Hmm its gonna be hard, becouse i do not even know her, she might react kinda different way, and slapp me or someting like that. And in nowaa days that what we call sexual harasment. Before i do that i need to take her out somwehre, and get to know her..But question is WHERE?
 

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WTF dude. Are you retarded? She stares at you all day, but you don't know her? She sits beside you but you can't GET TO KNOW HER? Every suggestion someone has you make up a stupid excuse to not do it? You're a fag, like the girl said.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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shydude, no offence but you are starting to sound like viper. You're shooting down ideas with 'I can't do that, I suck at that...' The best advice anyone can give you is to grow a pair and ask her out somewhere. If she is really into you as much as you say she is, she won't care much where it is. If asking her outright is too much (it is for most) at least get to know her first.
 

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Do you not talk to her in your class at all?? It's one thing to not talk to someone that sits on the other side of class (I have a case of this) but if she sits right next to you!! Come on!! Just start up some small talk and see where things lead.
 

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shydude said:
:nervous: Hello everyone. I am in high school, and this really hot girl is always cheking me out.. Everytime i lough, or do something crazy she always looking AT ME. She loughs and looks at me. Sometimes she cant get her eyes off me for like 5 minutes. She sits next to me, and like she tries to tell me "comen u shy faq, ask me out" YES that what i think she is trieing to tell me. And when we are dismissed from the class, she always walks slowly, I think she does that so i have time to approach her! She showing me any sings?? Or she just looking at me becouse i am soo ugly, which i am not.. And if she rejects me, what should i say to her back? If she doesnt reject me what should i say then.. Where should i tkae her out?? I dont wanna go to the movies or to EAT! I mean comen!! Eating and movies is like common places to go!! And amusement parks are all closed now.. And she is realllly hot!!! :cuss: HELP!! :wave:
You: "So, what do you say. Friday or Saturday?"
Her: "huh?"
You: What day do you prefer having the chance to impress me with your great personality and bowling skills?"
Try this.
 

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:rockon: :rockon: :rockon: :rockon: :rockon: Yup thats a good one
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I am gonna ask her out tomorow!! Wish me luck@!!!
 

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Yay!
--Where has the ViperTroll been anywho? Wouldnt' mind laughing my ass off at him being so defensive to ideas.
 

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i say just go for it and see if shes interested. you'll never know if you don't ask, and if she's givin you signs then she probably wants it too.
 

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Just remember to ask her casually, not like a guy who is desperate of going out with her. Just say that you're going somewhere and if she wants she can join you. Or simply just ask her if you two wanna hangout...don't mention a "date/" I'm not saying it is a bad move, but better stay on the safe side and use that work in the later future (if there will be one with you and her). Good friggin' luck!
 

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Hey people!! I approached her today!! She turns out to be 2 years older than me, lol!! Anyway we talked for a while, i asked her out and she said whe was always busy!! Is it a sign of reject people?? Or she teling the truth?? and she also talked to me.. asked me stuff, i know she showed me stuff of interest!! And she also asked me when i had free peri0ods!! but I think i am kinda to yung for her, she looks like me tough, i am even taller!! So what u think guys? she rejected me? should i try more?? thanks for all ur help!!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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