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She says "It's just one of those days"

Pathgen

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Ok. SO i met this girl at a party couple weeks ago. We make out at the party were drunk i get her number.

About a week later after the third time i went out with her (2nd time was really lame because she had to leave right after we hung out) im in her van at a parking structure making out with her again.

Anyway there is only one set of seats in the back so its a pretty decent sized van. Were on the floor in the back and things get a little intense. I get her pants open and im fingering her. However, I cant get her off. I have only really been this far with two other girls and I was able to get them both off fine.

Its kind of sketchy though because as we are doing this people are walking to there cars and stuff and allthough i dont think they can see us im not sure.

Anyhow she grabs me c0ck and is rubbing it, she even gives me head for like 2 minutes, but i am not getting off either. This has never happened to me either. I don't ussually finish fast, but i ussually feel more than i did.

Anyhow she says "Its just one of those days". I nod my head, but im thinking **** did i do something wrong why isn't this working this part seemed so natural to me before.

Well since her dad is always at home and my mom is in and out she said that she wouldn't mind driving across L.A. to come to my house for privacy. It was her idea so this is a good sign, but now im wondering if it happens again its going to be another blow to my ego. I have only ever had sex with one other girl and im pretty sure thats what were going to do.

Has anyone ever had this happen to them before. One thing she said was that i was fingering her a little to hard, but my ex used to like that. What do you guys have to say, should i just be more aware of what is turning her on when im not cramped up on the floor of a van?

To be honest and im not trying to brag, but the moves i ussually do have never got this response before so i thought i really didn't need to worry. Is my worrying justified?
 

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King Turi

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Just cuz your ex liked it hard don't mean she does, just go a little slower on her next time I guess.

I'd say yous were havin' a hard time gettin' off because yous were paranoid that people could see you.

I have no trouble blowin' my load in chicks mouths but one time this chick was suckin' me off while my door was open, and I knew the people I live with were gonna be comin' home soon, she knew as well but she kept goin', eventually I blew though but it was a lot harder to do it since I was paranoid someone was gonna walk in at any given moment.
 

mothballs

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Yeah I'd say it was the pressure and being in a public place... I don't think there's anything to worry about. A lot of people have difficulty with the first time with someone, especially when they don't have a lot of notches on your bedpost (myself included)... I don't recall the last time I heard that somebody couldn't perform on the second encounter.

Also, about fingering the cl1t... you really should be careful when you start fooling around with a new girl, some girls are really sensitive there and just moving your fingers near it can get them off, and touching it could even be uncomfortable or painful... some like your ex need it rough and just want you to beat the crap out of that cl1t... just be careful and circle in like a buzzard until you find the spot she loves and stick with it.
 

TheBucketOfTruth

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Yeah you always start out slow because what one girl likes another may see as basically being too rough. Everyone has different levels of sensitivity and preferences. Some girls when you go too hard will just shut off.
 
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