"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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She says "I dont think its fair for my boyfriend..."

Colinski282

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So after sharing alot of missed memories the conversation escalated and she said she missed talking to me and i was the only bf that ever did this or that...atfer a few more things said she says "Sorry if i ever hurt u but i dont think that its fair to my bf that i talk to you so u be careful and ill check up on u in a few months"


Ermm how to respond to this if i want to pursue
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If u persue she will run away and in the process she will becom your one itis. My advice is to just let her be call on holidays,birthdays, sh@t like that so your in her mind.
 

Colinski282

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Ya i definetly need to give her space, i dont wanna sweat her, itll make it worse.
 

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This is what most prudes say when you hit on them, even though they very clearly don't have a bf.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Colinski282 said:
So after sharing alot of missed memories the conversation escalated and she said she missed talking to me and i was the only bf that ever did this or that...atfer a few more things said she says "Sorry if i ever hurt u but i dont think that its fair to my bf that i talk to you so u be careful and ill check up on u in a few months"


Ermm how to respond to this if i want to pursue

"Check up on you"? sounds like she thinks ur some experiment or something


start runnin and never look back :woo:
 

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Colinski282 said:
"Sorry if i ever hurt u but i dont think that its fair to my bf that i talk to you so u be careful and ill check up on u in a few months"
Dude...I'm assuming you are over 18 years old and so is this girl. If you OR she are younger...then ignore the advice, because it won't work. If both of you are in your 20s or 30s...then you are alright.

Here is what I would have said:

"LOL...don't waste your time. Fact is, in a 'few months' I WILL be with a woman. If you continue talking with me, YOU will be that woman as I will introduce you to things you have never experience before as I'm not the same man that you used to date. If you stop talking with me, you are NOT going to be that woman. You have the key to this door. So, you decide: be fair to your bf or be fair to yourself."

However, here is my TRUE advice. Do not waste your time with "ex girlfriends".
 

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Colinski282 said:
So after sharing alot of missed memories the conversation escalated and she said she missed talking to me and i was the only bf that ever did this or that...atfer a few more things said she says "Sorry if i ever hurt u but i dont think that its fair to my bf that i talk to you so u be careful and ill check up on u in a few months"


Ermm how to respond to this if i want to pursue
You OBVIOUSLY weren't one of the 538 people who view my thread entitled " The Nine Signs of Little Or No Interest," otherwise you wouldn't of asked this question. So I'm going to be a nice guy and copy and paste the two replies that apply to you:

1) She'll Tell You This my boys is a effin' God send. You have a chick that actually has the balls and the common decency to tell you that she's doesn't want to talk to you. What more could you want? No ambiguities. No duplicitous actions. No communicating. It's right there in plain English, SHE DOESN'T WANT TO F*CK WITH YOU!!! With all that being said. There should be NO ONE coming into this site asking how to get a chick to like you that has already said, she isn't interested.

2) She Has A Boyfriend I hate to even have to include this one in here, but at least once a week some idiot will come on sosuave asking how to get a chick with a boyfriend. I have asked on many occasions why these morons want unavailable women, (AND YES YOUR A MORON!!!) but I have yet to get an answer to that question. I'm not talking about a chick that's has a boyfriend and she's pursuing you, (which is the only time that hollerin' at a chick with a man is acceptable.) I'm talking about the guys that are infatuated with chick that's already in a commited relationship. These dudes are stupid enough to believe that just because they're with a chick, they call her, and and sometimes hang out with her when her boyfriend's not around, means that he actually has a shot at seeing her naked. NO A$$HOLE!!! YOUR FEEDING THE MONSTER BIG TIME AND YOUR PLAYING RIGHT INTO HER ATTENTION WH*RING!!! WORSE OF ALL YOUR IN THE FRIEND'S ZONE AND YOU DON'T EVEN REALIZE IT!!!! Since I've explained it, can we now all stop with the "How To Get A Chick With A Boyfriend Bullsh*t?
 

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HB: "I have a Boyfriend"

DJ: "No problem - I'm not the jealous type"
 
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