so my past has really come back to bite me in the ass. a year ago i kinda had the player mindset and i would jump from 1 girl to another. recently i met an awesome girl that i would like to get into a relationship with. turns out she found out about my past and i heard from a friend that she says she feels like shes every other girl ive talked to in the past and that i dont make her feel special. is there anything i can do without giving up my manhood/dignity?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
she says i dont make her feel special
- Thread starter duke104
- Start date
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Dude, details. DETAILS.
How long have you know this "awesome girl" (pedestaling?)? Why is she so awesome? Have you closed her (asked her out)?
But does she want one with you?duke104 said:
Who is this friend? A male "friend"? I'd be leery of any 3rd party hearsay. Unless you heard it from her, it doesn't really count. Besides, personally, I think it's good that she thinks that way. She has to earn that special status.
How long have you know this "awesome girl" (pedestaling?
)? Why is she so awesome? Have you closed her (asked her out)?sounds like a ****test tbh shes heard that u were good with other girls and thats made her feel like she isnt special (which is true) but if u decide to go out of ur way to make her feel special then shes not going respect you as the alpha male u are
i heard it from a girl friend who talked to her over the weekend and somehow i was brought into the convo (yes, girl-friend. totally platonic. i have absolutely no attraction for her)
ive known her for a couple months. shes just a really down to earth girl that i always have a good time with when we go out. weve gone on a couple dates and weve kissed a couple times. (not makeout but just a goodbye kiss)
i know both of them were drunk when they had this conversation and the next day when i asked the one im after what they talked about she claims she doesnt remember (which could be true, i know i dont remember a lot of things i say when im drinking) but like they say, drunk words are sober thoughts.
ive known her for a couple months. shes just a really down to earth girl that i always have a good time with when we go out. weve gone on a couple dates and weve kissed a couple times. (not makeout but just a goodbye kiss)
i know both of them were drunk when they had this conversation and the next day when i asked the one im after what they talked about she claims she doesnt remember (which could be true, i know i dont remember a lot of things i say when im drinking) but like they say, drunk words are sober thoughts.
Julius_Seizeher
Master Don Juan
Not interested. Move on.
Most anything from a woman's mouth is either a test or an indicator of low interest. Unless, of course, her mouth is stuffed with yo ****.
Most anything from a woman's mouth is either a test or an indicator of low interest. Unless, of course, her mouth is stuffed with yo ****.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Test. You pass it by ignoring it. If you do what she wants to "make her feel special" she wins. If you continue to be the guy she was attracted to, you win.
This is epic fail. Never ask a woman about her conversations with her friends because she will do what your girl did. Lie to you. Just take the info and JUDGE the hell out it based on her ACTIONS. But keep it to yourself. Women hate to know that their friends are blabbing and they hate to be questioned about their "girl talk". It's poker and she ain't showing her cards if possible. Also never understimate dis-information campaigns. Chics lie to their friends for status and then when it comes back to bite them, they get mad. If anyone ever tells you anything about your girls convos...keep it to yourself and keep your eyes open.
SeymourCake
Banned
- Joined
- Apr 9, 2010
- Messages
- 1,523
- Reaction score
- 363
She wants you to put her on a pedestal. Just remember this bytch is like any other bytch in this world.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
IF it ever comes up, tell her "you haven't EARNED it yet,what makes you different from all the rest of the girls I've dated?"
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Your mindset here indicates that you have slipped back into 'chumpthink'.duke104 said:
Look, she thinks that she has to either RETREAT or COMPETE to keep you and she does not want to do either, so she is trying to shift the onus onto you to pursue her by making her"special". Resist this, because by chasing her you hand her all the power.
Just act the same way that you did when you met her.