"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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she said she hated him but went to see him again?

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wow.... all in ten minutes, we are meeting today, lol.

i told her that i don't give a fuk about the guy she is seeing and i dont care about him and you. i care about you.

i said: "well since you probably won't go shopping today. i am inviting you to the beach for a walk+talk. the offer is there."

"and don't expect me to ask you anymore!"

so she said: "yes, okay, as long as it's in the morning."

so there, i told her to fuk up about that fagot, i don't care about him. and i have a date with her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Tails

Sorry to break it to you, but you do not have a date with her, you have a friendship walk. She would only do it in the morning so she could she him later.

Wake up! We have all been in your shoes. THis is hopeless. Move on.

Dietzcoi
 

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okay, so that's it. she and i are seeing each other today... going for a walk down the beach in the morning. get to know each other better.

see's basically seeing two guys now, so just forget about the other guy and keep seeing her? or just leave her alone?
 

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Originally posted by dietzcoi
Tails

Sorry to break it to you, but you do not have a date with her, you have a friendship walk. She would only do it in the morning so she could she him later.

Wake up! We have all been in your shoes. THis is hopeless. Move on.

Dietzcoi
how do you know for sure man? she said she has to go see her sisters baby.

if what you say IS true, wtf am i supposed to tell her? i dont wanna go on a date with her if it's just as friends. waste of time. what the hell do i do? and i don't wanna leave her alone, i don't get too many chances like this. girl who lives near me, smart, funny, doesn't drink, smoke... it's realy fuking hard to find one where i live okay? that's why i'm online trying to find the opposite of SLUTS. and who knows, maybe i'll turn out to be a guy she likes when we meet? i'm almost considering to just let her go and tell her i don't wanna play this game no more. have your @sshole of a boyfriend.. i'm not here to be played, see ya.

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Tails, go for it and prove yourself to be the DJ who she wants - but quit making this girl out to be someone different than the rest - her screwing dude was all over the internet, What is your definition of a slut?

Don't act like a friend on the beach, try to hold her hand, then throw her down on the sand and go for the kiss!!!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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nah, it's okay. i have told her i am not going. i just lied and said i was busy and all she said was: "ok"

i just thought about all the posts here and you're all right. she just using me. i don't want to prove myself to her. she can go fukherself. i wasted enough time. i am going to leave her alone and dissapear like someone told me to before on this topic.

(this isn't the first time for me. i have never really been doing good with relationships. all i ever find is one night stands. that's all i've ever had. last relationship didn't work out.)

thanks guys. at the moment, i hate girls. stfu you stupid *****s.

let's just say i've had lots and lots of bad experiences.

and please. don't give me no bullsh|t, just accept what i am saying about this. i like to get these things out of my chest on this forum. if you think i'm an idiot or whatever, good on ya. suk a dik. once again, thank you for all your help. this is the last time a girl is getting me falling for them that easy.
 

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tails buddy...you need to calm down and breathe

there's always a benefit in having an extra female friend in your life. female friend definitely has lots of girl friends. which even increases your chances of hooking up with a babe.

if she wants you as a friend and you want her as a friend, there's really nothing wrong with just hanging out as buddies. even if it is just a stroll on the beach.
 

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Aight man, you're gettin really into this girl....which is dangerous. Keep her as a friend or something, which never hurts. But as people have said, just be a DJ and don't try to please her or change urself for her or any woman. And if she likes you, good. If she doesn't, oh well. And don't do some dumb lame sh1t like "fuk u"

Say something like, "we've talked about this before. I think its time you either moved on or stay with him and live with the decision you made. You either cross the street or you dont. Cuz if you're in the middle, something big and bad is gonna hit you."

^^^^ DDAAAAMNN!!!!! I'm good.
 

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I agree with ScrewIt, girls have girl friends (albeit not many) and its a good way to meet new girls. In my experience tho girls really hate it when you try to hook up with their friends, its always a competition with them.
 

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I used to teaze and even get irritated towards some of my female friends at times because they put way too much into net-chatting, hooking up with guys way not on purpose but really falling for a guy they'd talk to for a while... It's okay that a female could get blindsighted by words but you are supposedly a guy.

How on earth can you put any value into a chat with a girl you haven't met or know?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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dude, we have all been there, and its been the advice on this site and this forum that helped us change from where you are right now. I have been there, but instead of telling her to fuk off, I started using her for practice of techniques I learned here. They work, and I eventually got over her, met some other girls, met a beautiful girl thats awesome have been dating her for almost 9 months now - and if I didn't take the advice found on this site, I would probably still be friends with her and wanting her in secret. Let me put it plain and simple - if the other guy is hitting it and your not - your in the wrong position. DJ that biatch, once you have this shiat down, you can have nearly any girl you lust for. :rolleyes:
 

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God dam, its soooooo painfull to see how clueless this guy is. Dam dam dam. It reminds me of myself many a year ago. Dam. Sad thing is, he doesn't really understand that he has SO MUCH to learn. Uggg, I would hate to be in his shoes. :eek:
 

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Tails,

Think about your situation logically. If she really thought this other guy was so terrible and as she put it, a "fuk face" then why would she continue to talk to him online?

If she really thought this other guy was so bad she would have (1) blocked him from contacting her (2) delete him from her contact list and (3) stop all contact with the guy such as email and phone.

I can't believe that everyone on this board so far has missed the most important point - answering why this girl is acting mad yet still talking to the guy.

Here it is:
When she talks to you she pretends to be mad at the other guy so that she can look like the victim in your eyes. She wants to appear as the victim to (1) prevent you from getting mad at her because you found out about her sleeping with the other guy while she was getting to know you and (2) gain your sympathy and use you as a tampon. This way she turns the tables. Instead of you being the victim, she becomes the victim.
 
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