she said she finds me attractive....

[OddManOut85]

but im just too young.and it kinda hurts.like i said before,i didnt set my hopes too high with this chick.yeah.i kinda liked her.so yeah.but idk.maybe things can turn around.im trying not to get oneitis.o well.maybe things might change.this is that 27 year old i met on myspace.oh well.maybe things might turn different.oh well.on the other hand,ive had alot on my mind.ive wanted things to change for along time now.and they havent.cause i didnt make them change.and thats my own fault.ive sat here and done nothing and let time go bye.and thats something i cant get back.ive become a total kbj.yeah.it sucks.i never practiced or even tried to get good at meeting girls.instead i sat back did nothing got angry while everyone else moved on in life.i havent done anything to improve myself.why? how does this happen? how does one become such an afc? i dont know if it was social trauma of high school,not being able to go to college,or just not even trying.i mean,im an avg looking guy,i could have at least tried on avg/pretty looking girls.i mean,im still young,but it feels like so much has gone buy.everyone else has it so good,and im left behind.oh well.life is unfair.

 

[donjuanjovi]

Eat Sh1T A$$hole! There are little black kids in africa born with AIDS, who are lucky if they get a piece of bread to eat in a day. They probably wont live past 10, and you have the balls to say that life has been unfair to you?

You're this way because you made yourself this way. You make the concious decision to sit on your a$$ and stare at the television screen all day. Go out and do something you lazy piece of crap! You're down because this girl says you're cute but are too young? Chances are she said that so she didn't hurt your feelings. There are more than three billion women on this planet, and you're getting bent out of shape over some stupid b1tch you met on myspace?

Do me a favour. While you're sitting infront of your computer decomposing. Look into some online english classes. Your post had about four hundred periods yet was just a bunch of sh1tty run on sentences.

Life is not going to come and knock on your door. You have to go and grab it by the nuts. Now get off your lazy a$$ and start living.

 

[OddManOut85]

your right.well,i said it,cause,i feel like nothing is going for me.i know i made myself this way.and i have been paying for it ever since.more like computer screen all day.yeah.sucks.well,im trying not to get bent out of shape.believe me,im far from some master pua or however you want to put it.i know.i havent gotten off my ass.thats the problem.thats what i cant seem to get over.no.i go out.ive always gone out.i work.i go out with people.so not going out isnt the problem.no.ive been down for alot of other reasons.

she might have said it for that reason.maybe not.well,thats the point.there are other women out there.

thats just it,i havent started living yet.i mean,all i do is work,and other things.idk.i got issues.

 

[OddManOut85]

well,thats a problem i seem to have always had.something bad happens and its all over.im now starting to learn to get over it.few things ever go my way.

 

[donjuanjovi]

When life kicks you in the nuts you just have to pick yourself up and charge straight through it. I was picked on in school for being fat, my parents favoured my older brother, and I woke up one morning when I was 14 to find out my dad was dead. Sh1t happens to everyone. It's how they compose themselves when this sh1t is happening to them and after it has happened that will determine your success in life. What ever happened, you need to find a way to get over this hurdle and on to the next one, than after you start getting used to it, not even the tallest hurdle in the world will knock you off your feet and things will start to seem as if they're all going your way.

 

[backbreaker]

damn you suck dude... you need to fix yourself before you try to talk to another woman. the fact that you have regressed to using myspace in the first place is telling. Then you get rejected by a girl from mYspace, which could happen to anyone, but then you fill like kiling yourself becuase you get rejected by a girl who pointed out that you aren't worht her time, which is what a rejection is...

rejections are just like no's in selling... a no simply means you haven't provided enough information to make buying this product worthwhile, no matter what she says..

build value

 

[OddManOut85]

i never said i feel like killing myself.ive needed to fix myself for a long time now.im trying to now.yeah well,its my own fault for regressing to that.ive had plenty of time to change,but i havent.well,we only hung out once.so,idk,anything could happen.i mean,ive never even tried that much to begin with.what does that say about me? as a man? that ive never even tried.i got used to trying online.phh.whats that you know? and it bothers me every day.how does one build value? social value? value towards women? what?

 

[backbreaker]

dude, you are 21 freaking years old. Better you realize NOW what you need to do then 42.

Nothing ncessarly wrong, becuase no way is 100% correct, there isn't a patent on how to get women, but I can tell you what worked for me and hundreds of guys here.

I can relate becuase I am a computer guy. If I can do it online I will. However, that doesn't work with women, the polar opposite. I have a hot friend who literarly gets on myspace just to get her daily dose of attention. She puts her pics online and everytime she feels down she sees all the guys droolling over her, and then logs off and goes and gets **** from somewhere else in real life.

get away from women for awhile, I was going to make a post about this as a matter of fact. Don't let *****, the prusuit of it, or the abdondunce of it, both are just as bad if you ask me, control your life.

what do you like to do? What motiviates you?

You can't expect a woman to want to rip your pants off and have her way with you if you don't want to do the same to yourself everytime you look in the mirror.

Building value? Take pride in your work. Work out. Learn. Learn new words. Learn how to communicate with people. **** women for now, this is about you.

and one day, like it happened to me, *****, to be more candid, having too much available at one time, is going to be a huge problem. Look my old post up, you will see what I went though. It was like an overnight transition. it took me a while to learn to say NO.

don't be so damn afaid of rejection. right now, you are not looking for a woman, are looking for validation. Once you don't; need that validation from a woman, becuase you KNOW you are the ****, you will be suprised howmuch you don't give a damn.

anyway, dicect this board, learn and you will be fine

 

[OddManOut85]

thats the thing.im 21,and it feels like i have missed out on so much by not taking advantage of oppurtunities,and not changing things sooner.and hot having been in school has taken a serious toll on me as well.i mean,who wants to be with a going nowhere loser? with no education,no success in life?

thats just it.i havent found what works for me.well the online thing,ive spent too much time and not enough in the real world it seems.i feel this has hindered me greatly.im trying to figure out how to get over all this.i dont drool over women online.i mean,i usually say hi,whats up,etc,and it goes from there.i dont kiss anyones ass.online or off.

your right about the control thing.i have realized you need to be in control,not allow it to control you.i like to do alot and alot motivates me.problem is,i have trouble getting motivated.ive been stubborn and a procrastinator for far too long.i have had plenty of time to work out and get in shape.but i got depressed and lazy and hoping things would magically happen.was i wrong.

i seen guys fatter and uglier than me do well with chicks.im always learning.i try to take pride in my work.im trying to lose weight.well thats what ive been looking for,is that change.that change where the chicks go nuts for you.but you have to make it change.it seems like everyone else has gone through that change but me.im still stuck.

and its very frustrating.the validation thing,yeah.thats what happened with this other girl i was seeing,and it drove her away.im looking to meet someone cause im so sick of always being alone.well,how can you say your prize when your not? ive been reading through alot and trying to figure it all out.

 

[cyp6]

DUDE you should read this book calle how to become an alpha male.. its a good guide if you want to become "that guy" you always wanted to become.. its has a good chain of thought, unlike these boards or the bible. you can just blindly follow that, i mean if your gonna use the advice on this site its gonna be difficult because of all the controdictory agruments you get. also thing as too late... Get ur self in school bro. its the best way to meet chicks and also it will help you with your "going nowhere loser?" problem.. and in school pic some thing that you like and will try hard to become successful at... and have faith that things will get better...

 

[cyp6]

my bad on spelling... speed will compensate for errors.

 

[OBSYDYN]

What I recommend that you do, is that you just forget about any girl in the past, and start nice and fresh. I'm not saying that it will be easy, so go out and do something that you purely enjoy to do. It might be shooting hoops, playing poker with friends, whatever. Let's concentrate on the most important person, really the only person you can trust: you.

Take a break from women, so you can better improve your self-confidence. Girls love confidence, and having confidence in yourself will help you not fear and dread rejection so damn much. Start fresh, go shopping and get some nice clothes, some shoes, and some new accessories. Get a gym membership, and start hitting the weights. When you workout, your body releases endorphines, which will make you feel good. Get a good friend network going on, because some of my most successful relationships have come through some sort of friend network.

I used to be in your shoes. I hit a serious depression for about two years. I absolutely feared rejection, so I really didn't put myself on the market. I got more distant with all of my friends. I got extremely lucky, and landed a very good paying job. My employer was willing to work with my college schedule, and I have kept myself genuinely busy for the past year. I make 3x as much as I did before, and I am able to spoil myself with nice things. At this point in time, I could really careless about having a woman in my life. Whereas before, I was extremely desperate, and girls could see that.

Keep your head up, man. Just focus on you, and you will know when you are ready to put yourself on the market again.