"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She said ive changed

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Noeltech8907

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Hey guys, heres the deal I was just hanging out talking with some of my buddies having a good time and my ex and one of her friends showed up and started talking to us. Everyone was talking and laughing for a good 10 min then out of nowhere my ex turns to me and says...

Her: Youv'e changed.
Me: oh really how so?
Her: your all ****y now, who have you been hanging out with?

then i just shrugged my shoulders and went on talking to my friends. But i was just wondering, maybe im too ****y? or maybe she didnt meen it like that, who knows. what do you guys think.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Damian

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"You've changed too.
You've gotten a bit more observant."

Then go back to whatever conversation thread you were on. It really doesn't matter if anybody tells you outright. The indirect responses are what you should be paying attention to. If your attitude makes people laugh and enjoy themselves, you have it down the right path. If people are turned off by your ****iness, then try to turn it down a bit. Don't read too much into what she said. It's an insignificant little crumb in the larger scheme of things.

-Damian
 
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Juan_Man

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To me, she seems threatened by your newfound confidence. Don't let her break you down.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Warlord

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Hey pirate if you have nothing to contribute other than one words thinking you're hot, why don't you stop posting on SoSuave?
 
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SamePendo

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Most guys here are "not photogenic".

NoelTech... are you happier now that you are ****y? ... Well, then what that woman says is un-important.

"Yeah, you've changed too, your nose grew"

"Arnold Schwartzenegger(sp?), Don King, Mike Tyson, ... you know, the usual"
 
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I wouldn't think twice about what an ex-GF said to me. Don't waste your braincells on trying to figure it out.
 
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