"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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she said "I love you"....help?

SteveTheDon

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So I met this petite indian chick from pof last week, (im now 4 for 4 off getting laid there first meetup) anyways she stayed 2 nights in a motel with me that she paid for and we had mindblowing sex and talking etc.. she lives about 45 mins away so were gonna hang out again next week..prob is that we been talking almost everyday (she initiates the calls) yesterday when we got done I said I gotta take a shower so il talk to you later she said "ok bye hun, love ya" I was caught off guard and said "I like ya too" and kinda laughed then she hung up. She didnt mention it today but she said she loved me again and I just hung up. I do have feelings for her but aint it a little fast to be dropping the L word or should I just say it back to keep her spinning?
note: after the first night she wrote me saying she deleted her POF account and I never did mine but she hasnt asked... any advice?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Never tell a girl you love her until after 3 months. This girl might get clingy man.
 

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ok thanks.. even though I might not mind a chick being clingy for once instead of me,.. Im still a new afc learning the dj ways.. but so far applying some of the stuff I read here at least her IL is high..
 

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Ive tried that site , and everyone near me is chunky as hell =[
 

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SteveTheDon said:
she said "ok bye hun, love ya" I was caught off guard and said "I like ya too" and kinda laughed then she hung up. She didnt mention it today but she said she loved me again and I just hung up.
Sounds like you are making more of a big deal out of it then is necessary.

Casually saying "love ya" is pretty much a figure of speech now days. Just smile and nod next time without saying something queer like "I like ya too" and sweating because of it.

Unless she looks into your eyes and says it in a serious tone "I love you" then you have nothing to fear. Although she is East Indian so from what I know if her father finds out you might get a shotgun wedding out of this.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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First I met was a HB6 but I was out of a relationship so I slept with her at her place first night and was in a relationship for 4 months then she left me for an old bf, 2nd was a HB7 blonde, not fat but lil extra meat, she rented a motel, slept with her first night and dated for 2 months she ended up giving me LJBF, 3rd was a HB6.5 little chunky but good personality, i rented the hotel, ****ed her first night then she dumped me next week saying I drank to much.. now this one she paid 2 night hotel like $160 and bought pizza, slept with her first night that went to all things including anal, shes HB8 petite indian, 5 ft 120 pds, .. I just dont want to lose her like the others, the common denominator here is that I was AFC to all, and major clingy so I changed my ways this time and it seems its working... I think my success with POF is that I get the # close asap then text be flirty right off ask things like whats ur fav position, tell them their hot, get nudes then tell them I wanna be with them and love them then meet and I act shy and make it seem they are taking advantage of me, something must be working though outta the 4 I met I struck the vagina. Weird thing is I no contacted the 2nd one and 3 months later she facebooked me asking how i was, this time Im over her though so I just said good we should "see" a movie sometime (which is what wed do and fuc there or in the theater) she said sure and she just wants friends right now I said Im sorta seeing someone she said shes fine with that and wants to meet up.. so I finally got a couple good plates on the table. Now that I know how to work them this oughta be fun..
 

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DJDamage said:
Sounds like you are making more of a big deal out of it then is necessary.

Casually saying "love ya" is pretty much a figure of speech now days. Just smile and nod next time without saying something queer like "I like ya too" and sweating because of it.

Unless she looks into your eyes and says it in a serious tone "I love you" then you have nothing to fear. Although she is East Indian so from what I know if her father finds out you might get a shotgun wedding out of this.

It was actually said over the phone.. the first night we were drinking and making out and she said I loo.ike you so much.. this time she said it over the phone... and I found out shes Indian but not the east type, shes the feathers tomahawk type...
 
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