She said "I had sex with Bill because I loved him"

[Mustache]

This is about my wife who was suppose to be Bill's friends years ago. I never liked their friendship which end up when we moved from that city

But she used to call him mr. Bill, that's OK

Recently in a moment of anger, while we argued, she sunddely says:

"Do you really want to know ?"

"I had sex with Bill, because I loved him"

(no mr. Bill at this time, only Bill)

I would say that this phrase could be only to annoy me

But there is something in the phrase that drives me nut

This is not a simple phrase, it has the word "because"

Please let help to translate which is hidden on this phrase
that is driving me so crazy

Many guys here know a lot about women

Thanks


Mustache

 

[banGbro]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16420&highlight=interest+level+scale is an interest level scale. Where do you place your wife?

Your wife thinks she could do better? It makes you mad because youre an AFC?

Ive never been married, so I dont know how hard it could be, but raising her IL with C+F could be a reasonable approach. Raising her IL until shes totally into you, be more spontaneous and unpredictable. I would guess that you are same old boring sh1t, and she wants excitement.

Is she hot? Most of us like MILF, lol. J/k.


Raise her IL, and stop being paranoid/controlling/predictable. Those qualities turn her off and make her look at fine DJs who can make her horny. Question, does it still take you 2 hours to come?

 

[Teflon_Mcgee]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16420&highlight=interest+level+scale is an interest level scale. Where do you place your wife?

Your wife thinks she could do better? It makes you mad because youre an AFC?

Ive never been married, so I dont know how hard it could be, but raising her IL with C+F could be a reasonable approach. Raising her IL until shes totally into you, be more spontaneous and unpredictable. I would guess that you are same old boring sh1t, and she wants excitement.

Is she hot? Most of us like MILF, lol. J/k.


Raise her IL, and stop being paranoid/controlling/predictable. Those qualities turn her off and make her look at fine DJs who can make her horny. Question, does it still take you 2 hours to come?

I don't think C+F being spontaneous and predictable are really going to work in a marriage or most LTRs. I always maintain C+F but you can only do so much in a LTR if you want to be taken serious.

Predictable and spontaneous is kind of hard when you are so involved with somebody. At least on a regular basis.

This is speaking from experience.

Now, for my theory of keeping high IL in a marriage or LTR (BTW, I''ve never been married):

Truly become the prize. Why should your women stray to a lesser man than yourself? Get the body she dreams of. How many men that she can obtain have the body she dreams of?

Get a prestigious career that brings in good money. Who cares if she's not a gold digger or not materalistic. Do you think she woud prefer a man who is fat and works at Mcdonalds or a man who is chizled and accompolished?

F^ck her like you mean it. You can have both the above but if you don't give it to her good then she'll get it elsewhere. Be dirty, be raw, be hard, be soft, be passionate. Just be the best.

Don't just become something she considers a prize. Become something most women consider a prize.

Become the best she can get. Then you have all the power in the world. She'll know that she better do whatever she can to keep you happy. You'll know that you can have any woman. She'll know it too. It's a win win.

 

[Last Man Standing]

This is why I never will marry a hor!!!

She says this to hurt you!!! She stated that she had sex with someone you know - which hurts more than if you didn't know him - and secondly she said she "loved" him to hurt you to let you know that you are not the only one she loved and so that you can wonder if she is getting sexed by him still!!

 

[Babnik]

This is about my wife who was suppose to be Bill's friends years ago. I never liked their friendship which end up when we moved from that city

But she used to call him mr. Bill, that's OK

Recently in a moment of anger, while we argued, she sunddely says:

"Do you really want to know ?"

"I had sex with Bill, because I loved him"

(no mr. Bill at this time, only Bill)

I would say that this phrase could be only to annoy me

But there is something in the phrase that drives me nut

This is not a simple phrase, it has the word "because"

Please let help to translate which is hidden on this phrase
that is driving me so crazy

Many guys here know a lot about women

Thanks


Mustache

She cheated, why are you still together? Dump her ass!

 

[Master Bates]

This is about my wife who was suppose to be Bill's friends years ago. I never liked their friendship which end up when we moved from that city

But she used to call him mr. Bill, that's OK

Recently in a moment of anger, while we argued, she sunddely says:

"Do you really want to know ?"

"I had sex with Bill, because I loved him"

(no mr. Bill at this time, only Bill)

I would say that this phrase could be only to annoy me

But there is something in the phrase that drives me nut

This is not a simple phrase, it has the word "because"

Please let help to translate which is hidden on this phrase
that is driving me so crazy

Many guys here know a lot about women

Thanks


Mustache

I had a really hard time following any of that. Could you be more clear on the timeline of the story? When did she have sex with "Mr Bill"?

 

[Strip Club Inspector]

I'm confused is the goal to stay with her or figure out why it hurts.

It hurts for a lot of obvious reasons.

1) Implicit is not just that she loved Bill but that she loves him more than you. After all she could have told Bill to bugger off because she's in love with you.

2) Implicit is her failure to take moral responsibility for her actions; she did it "because." Well, perhaps, but also "because' she didn't cut it off earlier, talk to you about it, avoid this tempting situation, recommit herself to loving you, simply not do it at the last moment, etc."

3) Using Bill instead of Mr. Bill is annoying because it takes away the charade of formality that she formerly used to mask the real nature of their relationship.

4) Also this statement frustratingly passes the blame . . . It's not becuase she's weak, a sinner, irresponsible, and selfish, but the locus of responsibility is shifted to this uncontrollable thing, her emotions, as if those things were irresistable and trump all other considerations like, oh, things like wedding vows.

She sounds like a selfish person who has deceived you, hurt you, and now failed to take full moral responsibility for her actions. Unless those underlying issues can be resolved, your marriage is not truly salvageable. It sucks and hurts. I feel for you and hope this helped.

 

[sparky0000]

u marry a virgin. once a female has had sex she is ruined for other guys. your significance in her life is halved. her first guy will always be special to her. so...be special, don't be just another number.

btw, that was one h*** of a brilliant post by me. short, concise, and the type of truth that hurts. we need more posts like the one i just made.

 

[ValleyDJing]

Dude, why don't you proofread this before you post it man. This s.hit is hella confusing. Something about "Mr. Bill" having sex with your wife. uhhh...divorce her?

 

[Mustache]

Thank you guys

I had not asked her, she said it expontaneously in a anger moment

You helped me to analyze the phrase and found out what on in annoys, but

The problem is:

Can I say that this phrase was true or was just to hurt me ?

If she had said only. "I had sex with Bill"

But she also said "because I love him" would you say it increases the possibilities of the phrase to be true ?

 

[danny62]

Hmmm. I already know what some of the regulars are going to say about this. Some form of action has to be taken- you can't afford to let this pass whether its true or not.

 

[azanon]

Isn't this a double post? I could have swore ive seen this already. If so, please dont do that.

 

[woods]

You're not saying WHEN this happened. If it happened before you met, its not cheating. I've had chicks who, out of anger, mention some dude she screwed a long time ago. They're just trying to get a rise. YOu need to get some more info out of her.

 

[gherald]

read between the lines...she fvcked billy because she doesnt love you..

leave her...divorce her...thats somthing irrepairable

 

[Mustache]

Woods

Whe she kneew Bill we are already married for 7 years

 

[Bible_Belt]

She just gave you a 'get some pvssy for free' card. I think the best revenge would be implying that you might even the score, and she will torture herself with the anticipation of payback.

 

[woods]

Mustache, you're being WAY to vague. What did you say after she said that? When did this happen? What does she mean "loved" him? How did you respond?
Throw us a frickin bone here man!!

 

[Mustache]

read between the lines...she fvcked billy because she doesnt love you..

leave her...divorce her...thats somthing irrepairable

Gherard

The problem is that I refuse to believe that what she said is true
She seems completely no capable to cheat on
I got very surprised

Since we are married she had never been I woman very interest in sex
She used to tell me that sex for her was in last place in her life
That's why I cant believe it
But the doubt is killing me all the way

Mustache

 

[Mustache]

Gherard

The problem is that I refuse to believe that what she said is true
She seems completely no capable to cheat on
I got very surprised

Since we are married she had never been I woman very interest in sex
She used to tell me that sex for her was in last place in her life
That's why I cant believe it
But the doubt is killing me all the way

Mustache

Woods

She was aware that her frienship with that guy was a pain in my ass
Though I asked her, she never quit that friendship
They used to talk on the phone
But though that annoyned me very much, I trusted her

Mustache

 

[woods]

What exactly happened after she said that to you? Did she elaborate? Did you ask her what the hell she meant by that? Need more input.