"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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tincanman99

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Without going to a long story I totally cut a woman out of my life a few months ago after she flaked on me. I was having some anxiety about having contact with her as she will be at the holiday party with me this month.

Yesterday when I was coming back from lunch late and I turned the corner to go into my office and there she was "just happened" to be strolling by. This has happened a few times in the last month and I totally ignored her. There was a difference this time - she decided to talk to me as I have not even been speaking to her. I got the "hi" followed by "I havent spoken to you in a long time", etc... I played it loose and told her I have been really busy, blah, blah. I did not let it drag on as I told her I had to get on a call.

The thing is she should not even be where I sit. I sit in a desolate section of the floor and there is no reason to be over except to see me.

When I cut her off there was no bad words or ill will. She didnt call me back so I stopped calling her (after 2 times and a few text messages).

So how should I play this - continue being indifferent? I would like to nail her.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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tincanman99 said:
Without going to a long story I totally cut a woman out of my life a few months ago after she flaked on me. I was having some anxiety about having contact with her as she will be at the holiday party with me this month.

Yesterday when I was coming back from lunch late and I turned the corner to go into my office and there she was "just happened" to be strolling by. This has happened a few times in the last month and I totally ignored her. There was a difference this time - she decided to talk to me as I have not even been speaking to her. I got the "hi" followed by "I havent spoken to you in a long time", etc... I played it loose and told her I have been really busy, blah, blah. I did not let it drag on as I told her I had to get on a call.

The thing is she should not even be where I sit. I sit in a desolate section of the floor and there is no reason to be over except to see me.

When I cut her off there was no bad words or ill will. She didnt call me back so I stopped calling her (after 2 times and a few text messages).

So how should I play this - continue being indifferent? I would like to nail her.
Continue being indifferent. I don't think you were too indifferent when ye met because you cut the conversation off and going out of your way to ignore her isn't being indifferent. Thats a sign that it still bothers you what happened despite you acting like it doesn't.


Just be nice to her and let her do the chasing.
 
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