She recently just got out of a relationship

[ArchTO]

I met this girl for about a month and we hit it fairly well. We talk and laugh and there's never an awkward moment. We've went out to lunch during school a few times and she's even asked me to go to the states to go shopping with her and her girlfriend but I couldnt go. Whenever i'm at the libray she would call and ask if im at school and then she would come to study with me but then we'll just end up talking and jokin the whole time. Anyways the point is i've sense she might be attracted to me too but instead of wondering and analysing since I will never know unless I ask her out to know for sure right?

Well I was going to ask her to go out sometimes last week but then I remember she said she and her bf of 1 year broke up in february so i didn't want to ask her out so soon. Then the other day we were talking about our exes and dating then I asked something along the line of if theres any chance she would date me in the future.
I asked her this because I don't want to keep chasing her if she only sees me as a friend so I want to guage the situation and see what she says. First she giggle/chuckle then she said she doesnt know yet and never thought of it like that, like she was discussing earlier shes not dating right now cause its not goin to be fair for both persons. I told her I totally understand what she means, its just I brought it up so then if I know from the start that she only sees me as a friend I won't pursue her anymore than that.

So now i've decided to just give her her time and space and see what happens. I've put the ball in her court and its up to her now right? So now I'm just going talk to her normally as always but I won't ask her out to lunch or anything anymore. I always wanted to call and talk to her on the phone too before but I don't think I should do that now too.


Any advice/comments?

Thanks

 

[Serialized3]

Classic case of the difference between what a girl says and what she actually means.

It seems like a lot of the time when a girl gets out of a relationship she'll say that she "doesn't want to get into a another relationship anytime soon".

Then, a few days later, she starts dating the rebound guy.

Sounds like she was actually rejecting you to the Friendzone right there by giggling and telling you that she never thought of dating you.

Ser3

 

[ArchTO]

Ya I don't want to be a rebound guy so thats why I don't want to move on so strong. And for sure I don't want to get into the "friend zone" thats why i brought that question up and her reply was what I was expecting too but like you said that could be her way of nicely rejecting me. But at the same time its hard to tell because what if its true that she isnt looking to date right now because we were even discussing that prior to me asking her the big question. If she only saw me as a friend, she could've said that right instead of saying "i don't know". I forgot to mention that after I asked her the question and got that reply, I told her something like "the reason why i ask is because its better to let someone know right away and whatnot than play games"..i forgot what i said exactly lol.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Beware of becoming the "rebound guy." :nono:

 

[Fred Da Head]

Beware of becoming the "rebound guy." :nono:

Worse than becoming the rebound guy, is becoming the guy before the rebound guy. You know, the one who gets her into the dating mindset again, but who ends up working for the next guy in line--the one who will actually get the tail?

I wouldn't say "NEEEEEXT!" but definately don't put too much energy into that chick; she's basically a lost cause. She can still be useful as a pivot, though.