she next me, now she wont stop this..

[italianboy2009]

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h,,,

 

[OneEyedJack]

You want the last word, but guess what it doesn't work that way.

She is clamouring for your attention and any contact right now will give that to her. You job is to forget about her and her neediness.

You may have to block her number to do it.

 

[jophil28]

something like this..."""Look, im sorry but i have clear expecations and standards that you just dont measure up to."""

That is one of my favorites parting statements . It is best delivered in person in an icy tone with an expressionless face. However it does not work via text. It triggers off another round of hostilities. I have tried it with a baitch like yours.

Your woman is a loonie. She may also have some CLuster B traits. I am thinking that because of her lack of insight into the way in which she is creating this drama. Her selfishness is breathtaking, and her disrespect for you is through the roof. .Cluster B girls are also big fans of that ole game , "go away until I want you back "

You are an object to her. She has no legitimate feelings except fleeting gratification in those moments when you satisfied some whim of hers. Othertimes she will toy with you like a cat playing with a ball of wool.

The scariest thing is that women like this are raising children. .*.Jophil shudders*

Take it from the guys here - NO CONTACT is the most effective strategy. You cannot 'reason' with any woman who acts like yours..I have tried, trust me..
JUst do not reply to her in any way. She will amp up the game for a while and then taper off when she does not get any payoff.
Be strong, be silent, and you will get your life and your sanity back.

 

[Metro3pilot]

Good job grabbing the power back ^ 5

clearly she got busted on her game .... if you don't want her anymore then just move on...

showing her anything more than indifference will only give fuel to her fire. . .

 

[Knight's Cross]

Dude,
This one has Cluster B written all over it. Regardless, she's a Flake. Because you are Optionless you are putting up with her BS. Get out there and spin, meet, and mingle. Do not send a parting shot. Walk clear, stay focused. Eventually when this Black Widow snares a new mark, she will stop bothering you. Go read up:
http://sharischreiber.com/anycost.html

KC

 

[italianboy2009]

Update Check This Out...

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[Warrior74]

SO she ends up texting me yesterday late afternoon. she begs to see me. i tell her i have plans and wont be home until late, she begs. i say when i get home, you can see me. she comes over, walks in ...we have incredible sex for about 45 minutes and then i lay back...she asks do you want me to spend the night? i say, do you want to spend the night? she replys, yes. i tell her, if she gets me a cold glass of water from the fridge she can spend the night...which she does. about 2 hours later, we have sex again..when i wake up i leave for work, she goes home. she texts me this..."i just woke up, im feeling such a lovely tired. you are freakin amazing!". i reply, "work is busy today, but nothing i cant handle. as for last night, just incredible. follow me babe, i will show you the way".

Now since she next me, it gave me a couple days to put things in perspective and i want your advice. i am totally cool with keeping this girl for casual sex. i will not break down and get all stupid wanting her, i have crazy will-power and i lost it for her like that since shes been acting dumb. why would i stop having sex with her if im enjoying it and can handle my emotions???

see you in a few weeks buddy.

when a bytch uses the word power struggles...that means your in a power struggle. Amazing makeup sex always makes the guy feel like he is winning...but its just fatting you up for the kill. been there pal. See you back here soon. (but honestly I hope not, I hope it works for you in some way). Give us a follow up down the road.

 

[italianboy2009]

lol

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[italianboy2009]

cluster b, or this????

?>?

 

[Janez]

Don't get emotional with her. Use her for sex and do the nastiest things in sex u have ever done with girl and do things you wanted to try with girls and you never did. Then dump her like the worst piece of sh*t.

Or just dump her and never look back. These girls can make such mess in your head.

I know what they do and I am fighting such devil myself. The sooner you go out and leave this sh*t behind, the better for you. Oh, guys smarter than me can correct my first advice because the more i think about it, the worse the advice seem to be. Stay away or you might get in big trouble.

 

[OneEyedJack]

Now since she next me, it gave me a couple days to put things in perspective and i want your advice. i am totally cool with keeping this girl for casual sex. i will not break down and get all stupid wanting her, i have crazy will-power and i lost it for her like that since shes been acting dumb. why would i stop having sex with her if im enjoying it and can handle my emotions???

You rewarded her bad behaviour (breaking up when she got mad) by sexing her a week later? You are in deep **** because you tolerate disrespect.

 

[italianboy2009]

i see what your saying

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[jophil28]

follow me babe, i will show you the way".

You fujked it all right here..

Do you know what a woman with her fear of abandonment would read into this?
SHe reads that you are taking charge of the relationship and
'leading' her into a deeper involvement. So she gets excited all over again because now she has the reduced fear of separation that she craves. She hears you saying "committment" to her. Women read into men's statements what they WANT to hear. Any intended meaning to the contrary by you is irrelevant to her.

"I will show you the way " is likely to be interpreted by her as your decision to take charge and set the pace and direction for a close relationship with her. IT also carries the belief (to her ) that you are so entranced by her that you would make such a move and lead her into being more closely coupled with you.
However if she is mentally ill with some of the Cluster B traits (BPD ) she will feel smothered soon after you move close to her and then she will create drama and turmoil to feel "distant" again from you , but she will blame you when you tray to resolve the difficulty . It is what thay do - over and over. The breakup /makeup cycle is the default relationship style with nutty woman.

I have no idea what you were trying to tell her in the quote above ,BUT it was not to your advantage to use those words IF you only want a FB.
Secondly, you are vastly overestimating your ability to regulate your emotions and underestimating the depth of CONTROL that she has over you. .A lot of macho huffing and puffing is not being in control - it is just the remnants of your infalted ego out for some exercise.

SHe has way more power over you than you have over yourself. You just cant see it.
IF you were in control of this situation you would not CARE what she said or did and you you would not have the need to make several posts here setting out what she said and did in fine detail.

She is showing some signs and some symtoms of either BPD or HPD (or both)
You want some good advice.? Research these disorders to get a grip on what you may be dealing with.
Secondly, read some of the posts on this board from guys who have been screwed over by women who acted like your woman.

There are no happy endings in the BPD movie ( or its endless remakes.)

 

[italianboy2009]

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[mintxx]

if anyone is wondering what the blank posts are about:

1. italianboy is getting tail, from a single mommie no less
2. tail plays up, phone drama, 'where are you etc', tail dumps him hystrionic style
3. italianboy temporarily ignores her
4. single mommy invites herself to his house. they have sex. everyone is happy.
5. italianboy is keen to disregard everything he has learnt and pretend nothing unpleasant ever happened with this b!tch who is clearly off her trolly.

edit - correct me if i'm wrong

 

[jophil28]

if anyone is wondering what the blank posts are about:

1. italianboy is getting tail, from a single mommie no less
2. tail plays up, phone drama, 'where are you etc', tail dumps him hystrionic style
3. italianboy temporarily ignores her
4. single mommy invites herself to his house. they have sex. everyone is happy.
5. italianboy is keen to disregard everything he has learnt and pretend nothing unpleasant ever happened with this b!tch who is clearly off her trolly.

edit - correct me if i'm wrong

Nah, the only thing you got wrong was the correct spelling of one word. I believe it should be 'trollEy'...with an 'e'...

And ... perhaps, the colloquial expression" off her trolley " which is an Aussie saying, is not so well known, or in common use in Nth America.

 

[MacAvoy]

if anyone is wondering what the blank posts are about:

I get a kick out of people who are worried about what strangers who don't know them think about them. Oh no my reputation is tarnished LOL. Its an anonymous forum people!

 

[broken dreams]

Yeah
I think he is sensitive on what other people think of him.
I post for advice and analyze it for my well being.I dont care about my ego I care about my well being and getting solid advice on delicate matters.

I mean with women once you break your own rules, you end up with a mess.
we've all been there but ultimately we end up losing the second time unless we dont let it happen again.
same **** with my ex cougar only thing is she is trying to figure out what ive been up to , since i ve cut ties.

Its a gamblers' trap a losing game that only women play all the time, remmeber they go for what they feel in the momment and if they **** up the know how to handle their emotions better than us.
especially when they go out and easily find a new guy.

good luck bro report back when the ride is over.