"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She misses talking to me, but doesnt want too talk?

Jizz

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So theres this gal with a bf, who all i wanted was to be her friend because she is actually a really cool gal!

so im her friend, i know she has a bf and i respect that, were both flirtatous ppl so there is a bit of that but nothing meaningful!

Her bf basically isnt happy about us talking and texting but she still wants to be friends and too carry on but i tell her that we cant be friends (i did try telling him nothing was happening blah blah but didnt work, and tbh i wasnt really bothered) shes not happy about this saying "my bf doesnt control me blah blah, it wont harm my relationship if we talk!"

i started missing her lil texts and chats we had, still not attracted to her that way really, as i respect that she has a bf, and im into other gals!

but i tell her, i miss her chats and her bf said he doesnt mind if were friends as long as thats all it is, shes not happy at all! shes like "first u dont want to be my friend then you do? you cant just click your fingers and everything will be ok, just because you think im a push over"

she said "i miss talking to you, i miss the lil texts, i miss everything, but im not gonna give in easially, its like your calling all the shots" so i said "well you think about it and call this shot, if you wanna be friends let me know"

next day she sends a text saying "ive made my choice, its probably not the right choice but i dont think we should talk"

any ******** translation here for me please? and any idea what she is thinking?

remember im not attracted to her really, it really is a just friends thing, maybe whens shes single ill be attracted but i doubt it, shes nothing special, a hb7!

im also into other gals like that and im having no problem with them at all, im just a bit confused by this one

cheers for any advice
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Bloke

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It means...

She's made her choice, its probably not the right choice (you are a Don Juan after all) & she doesn't think you should talk

Her boyfriend si obviously more important than your friendship, fair enough as well

P.S Don't waste text money on a chick that you ONLY want to be friend with
 

The Bad Ass Canadian

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Actually, here's what it means.

You are in denial about wanting to be with this girl, and she is sensing it. Her BF probably told her to choose, and since you are just a friend who she sees as nothing more, she'd rather stay with the guy who's plowing her instead of being ejected back into the single life where she feels you will try and make a move on her and she doesn't want that.

Think about it. Girls don't tell their real friends that they shouldn't talk anymore. It's b.s.


I know you say that you are into other girls.... so why are you wasting time texting and talking to one who is taken, hmmm?

Walk away.
 

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UGHHHH THIS IS A DJ/PICKUP FORUM NOT A ****ING FORUM ON HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS WITH WOMEN!
 

DinoCassanova

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theres this gal with a bf, who all i wanted was to be her friend because she is actually a really cool gal!


Bussey is probably right. I mean, what are you?? Will ? And she's Grace?? It is not possible for probably 99% of hetero men to able to honestly say, "all i wanted was to be her friend because she is actually a really cool gal". All men want to nail her, or get a bj at least from her, eventually at least. That's the way Mother Nature intended it to be after all. Forget about her and go find one you can have carnal relations with.

~Dino
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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