"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She metioned her BF??

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Okay so ive been texting this women the last couple of days, and its all been going well. She has a bf but has text me the last couple days anyway, knowing that if he found out she was texting me, he would flip :L. Her friends have also told her its not a good idea to text me when she has a bf but she does it anyway :L.

Anyway, my question: I was texting her tonight, all is going well when she suddenly says, out of the blue, 'My boyfriend hasnt text me since 4pm today, how wierd :S'. Its now midnight. Why is she telling me this? Is this a way of telling me to back off? Or is this more of an IOI?

Thanks in advance :)
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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bigneil said:
Random use of the 'B' word = friend zone.
I would usually agree, but she always mentions him in a negative context. I usually handle the situation by laughing at her (I.e 'he hasnt text me back' Me: ' ahahah gutted' and she will tell me its not funny, but in a joking way.

Does this sound typical friendzone?
 

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Well, in conversation they can mention him accidentally, it's part of their language. I've found myself doing that after breaking up. You can feel them catch themselves when they do it without intending to. But in this case she put it in writing. You don't accidentally type something. Maybe she's trying to rub it in. Either way is bad.

Tell her she needs a girlfriend to talk about her ex with.
 

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acerazor1 said:
Okay so ive been texting this women the last couple of days, and its all been going well. She has a bf but has text me the last couple days anyway, knowing that if he found out she was texting me, he would flip :L. Her friends have also told her its not a good idea to text me when she has a bf but she does it anyway :L.

Anyway, my question: I was texting her tonight, all is going well when she suddenly says, out of the blue, 'My boyfriend hasnt text me since 4pm today, how wierd :S'. Its now midnight. Why is she telling me this? Is this a way of telling me to back off? Or is this more of an IOI?

Thanks in advance :)
If you know that she has a bf and she knows that you know, then why are you pretending to be her "friend" just to get some? Obviously, she knows that you want some, so do her friends, so quit pussy-footing around already and make a move.

Oh, and stop looking for signs of interest...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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