"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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She metioned her BF??

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Okay so ive been texting this women the last couple of days, and its all been going well. She has a bf but has text me the last couple days anyway, knowing that if he found out she was texting me, he would flip :L. Her friends have also told her its not a good idea to text me when she has a bf but she does it anyway :L.

Anyway, my question: I was texting her tonight, all is going well when she suddenly says, out of the blue, 'My boyfriend hasnt text me since 4pm today, how wierd :S'. Its now midnight. Why is she telling me this? Is this a way of telling me to back off? Or is this more of an IOI?

Thanks in advance :)
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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bigneil said:
Random use of the 'B' word = friend zone.
I would usually agree, but she always mentions him in a negative context. I usually handle the situation by laughing at her (I.e 'he hasnt text me back' Me: ' ahahah gutted' and she will tell me its not funny, but in a joking way.

Does this sound typical friendzone?
 

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Well, in conversation they can mention him accidentally, it's part of their language. I've found myself doing that after breaking up. You can feel them catch themselves when they do it without intending to. But in this case she put it in writing. You don't accidentally type something. Maybe she's trying to rub it in. Either way is bad.

Tell her she needs a girlfriend to talk about her ex with.
 

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acerazor1 said:
Okay so ive been texting this women the last couple of days, and its all been going well. She has a bf but has text me the last couple days anyway, knowing that if he found out she was texting me, he would flip :L. Her friends have also told her its not a good idea to text me when she has a bf but she does it anyway :L.

Anyway, my question: I was texting her tonight, all is going well when she suddenly says, out of the blue, 'My boyfriend hasnt text me since 4pm today, how wierd :S'. Its now midnight. Why is she telling me this? Is this a way of telling me to back off? Or is this more of an IOI?

Thanks in advance :)
If you know that she has a bf and she knows that you know, then why are you pretending to be her "friend" just to get some? Obviously, she knows that you want some, so do her friends, so quit pussy-footing around already and make a move.

Oh, and stop looking for signs of interest...
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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