"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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She lives far away, interest level and other concerns....

FM 3321

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I met this girl over the weekend at a party with some friends and over the two days I was in her town we kissed and had lots of fun.

Since she lives more than an hour away it's like I have to plan special trips if I want to see her. Also the fact that we both live with our parents kinda sucks since she can't say, come down for the weekend, and I can't do the same either. Well let's take out that can't because it will be possible somehow, I just need to figure it out.

The other thing that's going through my head is wondering how to keep her high interest level since I don't plan on making a weekend trip to see her. I have much better success keeping interest level high by doing kino, and using my physical moves on the girl. Also since finals are coming up for school I plan to stay home during the next couple of weekends.

Lastly, ever since we've met or I left her town we've been talking and text messaging I think a little too much. It's like we have a little fake story going between us during the day which is really ****y+funny and sarcastic.

So anyway, those are my concerns. Maybe I shouldn't worry about it but they do seem like obstacles. I think if anything is gonna happen with this, just talking to her on the phone isn't gonna cut it.

I also keep thinking to myself that I NEED to get my own place soon and find girls that live in my city. Most of my friends are out of town and it seems like everytime I hang with friends out of town, picking up a girl is soo damn easy. I also noticed that if it's a girl that's out of town, my perceived interest level is pretty low. The last girl I dated lived in my town and it was much easier to keep up with her so to speak.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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penkitten

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doesnt seem so bad to me.
take your time on moving out, make sure you got the cash to do it . its hard paying bills ya know...
 

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FM 3321

Do not share an apartment with one of your buddies. Do it on your own or not at all.Put some money up till you have a stash that can take care of you for at lease six months. If you loose a job or something like that, you won't be having to loose your place too soon. Stash first. Run to the mall second.

Best of luck
 

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Concerning on moving out, this is what I did before I moved outta my parents place. I also agree with the above poster, a person that I knew for several months who was friendly turned out to be a total a-hole within a couple weeks of moving in same apartment. People who are strangers tend to set strict guidelines right away, people who aren't and you know them for less than a year tend to relax and show you their ugly side fast.

Here are simple basic steps.

1. Make sure you got enough money to pay rent for at least 6 months.

2. Cut down on excess waste which contribute zero to your personal life such as watching matinee movies instead of full price to not drinking alcohol at ripoff bars/clubs.

3. Contribute more into things that benefit your life such as instead of working 9-5 and then drone off, spend money for a local gym, go to library, etc.

Girls? Don't worry about that buddy. Those who are on the hunt or waiting usually don't get any action. (Unless you're good looking) Those who do what they do naturally will get action.
 
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