"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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she lives far away. driving question

Mr. Delicious

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Ok the girl i am taking out this weekend lives about 20 miles away from me. Its a good half hour drive. The date is going to be alot closer to my house than hers. Should I ask her to meet me there or should I go ahead and pick her up. I was thinking it would be more DJ to have her meet me there or at least a halfway point. What do you think?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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golf299

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i was in a similar situation on the last date i went on...

i lived about 40min from the girl. SHE asked ME out. she then offered to pick me up, but i told her that was ridiculus. so, we just made the date at the half way point between us... that's probably what you should have tried to do.

but, in your situation, i would say that you should pick her up since it is the first date and you did ask her out... but, above all, just go with your gut...if she likes you, it won't matter either way.

good luck!
 

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20 miles is nothing,

In my afc days I drove 9 hours to see some chick:eek:
(I had other things to drive there for also not just her)

I like driving but I'd never do long-distance relationships again...

20 miles???
thats not that much really,
but if you had to drive that every time you wana
see her then that's probably a tad bit far,
If she's good then try to meet halfway or
have her drive to you...

my 2 yen~
 

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20 miles...dude...c'mon
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Lone_raider

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20 miles is not far at all! Girl I'm dating now lives 30 miles away from me, sometimes we meet halfway, but a lot of the time I go and pick her up.
 

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its not so much that. I dont mind driving 20 miles to get her. The problem is that its a 40 mile trip just to get her and then get to the date. So i will put at least 80 miles on my car. I am thinking this may look AFC-ish driving that far for her. What do you think.
 

So pimp its scary

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I can almost promise you that if she thinks ANYTHING of it, she will be flattered...

The exception to this would be if you act AFC for the rest of the date in which case she will think that you were driving that way to get in her good books...

Which brings me to the post that I'm going to write next...

Think about it this way, women are NOT all that different from Men... if a woman came and asked you on a date, then drove 80miles to pick you up so that she could hopefully land you in the sack to never call again, you might do it once or twice (or a lot more, I dunno we ARE MEN after all), but if this continued for long enough you would start to feel used and uncared for by this woman, and would eventually dump her.

(The difference for men and women in this case is only that a woman must feel cared about on some level BEFORE she will have sex, whereas a man won't initially care, but once he sees that he isn't cared for, that he is just a piece of meat, he will start to not want anything to do with this woman, and will look for her replacement (cause you never wanna give up puzzy untill you have replacement puzzy :D))
 

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30 min isn't too bad. Last guy that drove out to see me drove over an hour... of course, I am worth it. ha ha ha... Also, he didn't pick me up and then turn back around... we stayed around here. If we were going to hang out there I'd probably go to him, or we'd meet in the city or something.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Kineti[C]harm

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A girl that wants me to come to her now lives 7 hour drive away.... or a 1 hour flight... Sucks. Glad I have others here.
 

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30 minutes is not horrible but its not great either

why cant she drive to your place?

if its just a booty call than meeting half way is fine
 

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Think about this for a minute: How would you approach this situation if you were asked a dude friend to hang out with you?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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