"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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She liked me..then changed her mind? Any hope?

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She liked me..then changed her mind? **EDIT- NEW QUESTION!

Well, she liked me. Then over a 2 day period or so, she changed her mind from wanting me to not being sure or just flat out no. I kinda still like her, how should i go about getting her interest level back up? Go with another girl, talk to her alot...or not at all? Or is there no hope left?



EDIT - Since this girl was interested in me just a few days ago, and now she is unsure...is it smart to just ignore her and not initiate convo. I'd like her to say something to me but I can't count on it. BASICALLY, should i ask her what our deal is? Should i get my friend or one of hers to find out for me? Should i just act like i don't even care (which i do) and look for the next girl?
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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girls are like that at the high school age, man.

They will like you, and when they find out you like em back, it disappears. Read the bible. Theres a link in the upper right hand corner of the screen. It will all start to make sense....

Forget about her and find some other hotties.
 

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Which link is this that you're speaking of? Hmm...i'd like to read it.

See my prob is i'm too picky to just find another girl..thats why i i like someone..i kinda "need" them
 

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Originally posted by Andromax
girls are like that at the high school age, man.

They will like you, and when they find out you like em back, it disappears. Read the bible. Theres a link in the upper right hand corner of the screen. It will all start to make sense....
Can't the opposite also be true, particularly for those inexperienced ones? There's a girl who didn't really have any thoughts about me, but once she found I liked her, she started noticing me more and acting more interested (unless it's just my imagination)...when she wasn't earlier.

But back to the topic, I've always liked talking and having fun with other girls in her presence...that'll usually make her jealous. Just don't overdo it or it'll be too obvious and you'll look like a jerk. So yeah I'd still talk to her some, maybe talking to her as a friend-only would be good to start with if she doesn't really want you in other ways yet.
 

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"..thats why i i like someone..i kinda "need" them"
Omg dude, slap yourself right now.

You need to get that mentality out of your head right now.


http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/ The Bible is available here for free.

Do yourself a favor. It will help you to transform yourself, but you have to be committed. You have to be ready for the Truth.

Read it in it's entirety..


Can't the opposite also be true?
Yes it can, to an extent. If a girl finds out that you like her, she may have an initial peak of interest in you, if she finds you attractive.. though you will miss your window if you dont make your move.

So yeah I'd still talk to her some, maybe talking to her as a friend-only would be good to start with if she doesn't really want you in other ways yet.
Bad idea if he wants to pursue her. If you go down the road of LJBF, then you will lose your "undisclosed" edge, and thats all you will likely ever be.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I'm not going to be hard on you man. But listen.
First go read my Never give up your & Revive your motivation scroll down and read part II.
Then
Go
Read
The Dj bible
Top right corner of your screen.
 

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thanks but i have one last question on this girl




EDIT - Since this girl was interested in me just a few days ago, and now she is unsure...is it smart to just ignore her and not initiate convo. I'd like her to say something to me but I can't count on it. BASICALLY, should i ask her what our deal is? Should i get my friend or one of hers to find out for me? Should i just act like i don't even care (which i do) and look for the next girl?

( I know, i should just say **** it..forget her..go on with my life and look for a new girl...problem is i'm TOO PICKY to like just another girl. This is the FIRST time is years i LIKE a girl, i hook up with girls all the time but i have no real feelings for them)
 

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she liked you and then suddenly didnt like you anymore = someone better came along.

leave it be.

if she has interest at all , she will approach you or call you.
 

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this just happend to me but i kept persuing her... this girl madeout with me and was all over me but "didnt want a relationship" so she said lets just be friends after makin out n stuff for a few days then i just acted like it didnt bug me and kinda played hard to get but then kept kissin her on the cheek goodbye n **** and takin her on dates now we are going out.. and she cried cuz she thought i was dumpin her the other day... so ... could workout just dont give up... she could just be seein if u really want her bad enough or somthing...
 
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