"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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jaross

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Well I know that you guys say it doesnt matter, but it will encourage me if I know.

I have dreads and today I felt like testing out peakock theoroy and put my hair straight up so it spread out like a palm tree. This chick who was going to get dinner and play mini golf with a group of friends apon first site called me a palm tree in a playful manner (flirting? IOI?). She seemed to be giving me attention helping me out with mini golf (I have a broken foot). She even iniciated some kino to help me hit the ball. Later out of the blue she said "I like you, you have dreads thats cool".

But then later after that we were talking about something and she said something to the extent that I was like a grandpa. I have had chicks who I know liked me say things similar, but it just seems weird.


anyway, I was trying to be flirty and ****y funny. Ill see what happens next time I see her.



(we have less girls to guys ratio, and considering the school is so small, the pickings are, and/or seem slim)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm no master DJ, but when I read a post like yours and develop a gut about it, I like to share that gut:

My gut from reading your post is that she is interested in you.. :up: She is finding unique things about you (your hair, your grampa like tendencies) and commenting on them. She said she likes you. All good signs in my opinion.

What I think will make you or break your chance with her is if you stay confident about "Grampa with Palm Tree Hair" and don't change a thing, or, if you send Grampa packing next time and appear to her as someone different. By not changing, you are telling her "I dont care what you had to say, I am who I am, like it or lump it". And confidence, as we all know from DJ-101, builds attraction in itself..

I hear ya on the ratio thing. My town is one big Sausage Fest.

Good luck!
 

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Call_Me_Daddy said:
WOW. This is the BEST TIP EVER!!! LIKE OMG!!!
My thoughts exactly.

Wrong forum dude. No worries, they'll move it, but in the future, this forum is Tips only.
 

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logicallefty said:
I'm no master DJ, but when I read a post like yours and develop a gut about it, I like to share that gut:

My gut from reading your post is that she is interested in you.. :up: She is finding unique things about you (your hair, your grampa like tendencies) and commenting on them. She said she likes you. All good signs in my opinion.

What I think will make you or break your chance with her is if you stay confident about "Grampa with Palm Tree Hair" and don't change a thing, or, if you send Grampa packing next time and appear to her as someone different. By not changing, you are telling her "I dont care what you had to say, I am who I am, like it or lump it". And confidence, as we all know from DJ-101, builds attraction in itself..

I hear ya on the ratio thing. My town is one big Sausage Fest.

Good luck!
cool sounds good. Im pretty damn good at being myself :cool:

Just ran into her today. She really wanted me to go to her rugby game tomorrow (I just met her..). I dont know if I will be able to because Im going camping, but its a good sign that she wanted me to go..
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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