"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

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She knows i have an LTR but still asks me out..

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slickaz

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Ok so this chic.
8.5, philipino/white mix.
beautiful and looks like a ball of fun..

knows i have a LTR but still calls me up and asks if i wanna go out to 'catchup' over dinner and maybe a movie or walk around the mall.

now i dunno this girl for more than a week, what is 'catchup'? mean?

so her girlfriend is a very good friend of mine, she calls me up and asks me whats going on, coz she thinks HB8.5 likes me enough to have talked about possibly staying over at my place on the night of the date..
which happens to be....tonight..

im thinking 2 things:
1. she is either being friendly because she knows im new to the city and hence just trying to help out and hang out.
2. she wants to see if she can pull a man away from his LTR.
3. she likes me and really just forgot/doesnt know i have an LTR (that cant be because she visited my facebook and my LTR is ALL over the page, even my profile pic is of me and my LTR. so......

which one is it?
what should i do?

should i go? and find out if she is just being friendly?
should i not go?
should i go and ensure she gets it that im only looking to be friends?
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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i think you know the answer to your own question.

its obvious this girl digs you and from the sounds of it, it sounds like you are interested as well.

What I don't understand is why you are in a LTR if you are asking us whether you should go hang out with this other girl. Would you be okay with your current girlfriend going out to "catch up" with some other dude one-on-one?

I think you need to reevaluate whether you want to be in a relationship or not. If the answer is no, then dump your current girfriend and go hang out with the new girl. If not, then forget this girl and respect the boundaries of a LTR.

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DAMN IT!
i was hoping i could be social and friendly.

i mean from one perspective whats wrong with being friends?
on the other hand, i would hate to know my girl hangs out with a guy one on one..so double standards is not right i guess..

i dunno..
how do i let this girl know that im not interested in more than being a friend, but being nice about it...and hopefully continue being friends.
 
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Well, let's see, in my opinion I think you should just have a threesome with your LTR and this girl here and that would solve your problem. I guess you just have to ask both girls if they are into that sort of thing.
 
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