"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She just got out of a relationship.

PocketGnome

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It's wasn't a very long one, and I've been talking to her for a few weeks now. Nothing too much yet because she was in a relationship, but I wouldn't say we are friends at the moment.

Anyway, how soon should I wait until I take my chances? Homecoming is in a week an a half, maybe sometime this week?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Well, what do you have to lose? Maybe a little dignity if you get shot down, but you most likely will seeing you waited this long to ask her to homecoming. If she goes, then look at it as a confidence booster and pat yourself on the back. If she doesn't, find another girl and pat yourself on the back.
 

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how long was the relationship?

how did it end. why did it end chances are you'll become the rebound..

depends on the information u give us
 

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It wasn't that long... Like a month at the most. I don't know how it ended. They used to hold hands and stuff in the hall, and now they don't. They apparently don't talk.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Just move in for the kill. Don't talk about her relationship. She's vulnerable right now and will be less critical of you. As each second passes, this will change tough. I'd suggest you ask her to hang with you immediately. And I mean, like, in the next 5 minutes.
 

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I wish I could in the next five minutes. I'm not gonna see her tomorrow at all because I won't be in school, so maybe friday? Unless she gets on the internet, and I would prefer to talk to her in person.
 
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