"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She just does'nt see it

toasttopper1879

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Ok.So I do the c&f,maybe overdo but she likes and I think theres some attraction.I start to build the rapport.We talk about the fun things like kissing,sex,flirting.We talk abot serious issues,we talk about how I view my ex,and we still have the laughs and playfights.She mocks infront of people that we kiss which we dont and I presumed genuinly showing good signs of interest.
After my dinner I got hiccups.She comes out with the phrase"just as well you arnt trying to chat me up now you've got them"
So I've spent days on end doing exactly that and she does'nt bloody realise.
So other than come out with the obvious how can I let this girl know I do quite like her.What the hell is I doing wrong.
Cheers.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You must not 'let her know you like her'. You must make her realise this herself. If you have been getting on well with her thus far, pull your attention away from her. Make her come to you for more attention. The path will then be clear to make you move.

Hope this helps, and Good luck!
 

belividere

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Read this.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=56520

This is the article that is the first post of the DJ bible. As a matter of fact when you click on the READ THIS FIRST link this is what comes up.

This ist the first paragraph of this post:
How can I tell if she likes me?

The only way to be able to tell how interested she is in you is to make a move (number close, date request, kiss, etc.) Watch her reaction. If the move is unsuccessful the first time, you can try again later one more time. If it's unsuccessful the second time, ditch her and move on....in other words...NEXT.
 

toasttopper1879

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Cheers belividere.I read that ages since.Proper relevent though in some parts,although I honestly thought I'd gone past all that stuff.Best bit for me in that though was the not giving a toss about what she thinks of others.Got affected when I saw her doodle a heart ontop another lads name,but like that post says I should nt give a toss.
Hellboy your right mate.Next social occasion give it a go and if it gets knocked back then its time to shift on,if it isnt time already.
Eion mate I'd pull away but she wont let me.
cheers lads
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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toasttopper1879

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And by the way lads.The aim I had was to build up rapport.Did I actually manage to get that bit right in a way or have i got the rapport stage bloody wrong.
 
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