"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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She just broke up with her boyfriend

missouri mike

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Okay so this girl Ive talked to on and off for a few years recently broke up with her bf Of a year. She started texting me like a week ago saying she missed me and wanted to see me. ... so she. Came over and we talked for a few hours and she was telling .me that they were about to break up because he was going to college and they're had been fighting. A lot so like A day later they broke up and I know she wants to hook up with me hoe long should I wait and how should I go about it,?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SoldMySoul

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You are from the Show Me State, so she will have to show you! Talk to her some, but do not over do it. If she wants to be with Mike, she will show you. Do not over text, call or communicate with her, but still show some interest. If she wants to be with Missouri Mike, then she will go after him.
 

Bible_Belt

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Came over and we talked for a few hours ... they broke up and I know she wants to hook up with me hoe long should I wait


It sounds like you have done more than enough waiting already. Why do you think she came over to your place? Do you really think talking was what she wanted?
 

jophil28

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Here we go again-
Mike, you have been recruited to be either her new "branch", or her male girlfriend, or perhaps merely a source of ego re-inflation and validation for her.

Play it cautious here..
IF she wants a locked down 'relationship' with you at warp speed then she is using you for a new branch to grasp on ( and she will dump you just as fast for a BBD, or if her ex wants her back).

IF she cries on your shoulder about her ex, then you are just her 'girlfriend'.

IF she wants to date you, ot "hang out " with you but wants to, " take it slow" and won't get naked yet because she is " so confused", then she is using you to repair her broken ego .

Proceed with your eyes and mind open.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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f283000

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everything jophil said was spot on. She didn't go over to your place because she wants you she went over to your place because she wanted somebody to cry and whine about her bf to. Basically you played the part of the psychologist and she got a session for free and you got nothing in return (and will get nothing in return).

The lesson to be learned is to NEVER ALLOW YOURSELF TO BECOME ANYONE'S GIRLFRIEND/EMOTIONAL TAMPON!

I don't care who it is when it comes to relationship problems you don't give no consultations! Let them know you don't like drama in your life, don't like to talk about this stuff or whatever just don't let no woman use you as an emotional tampon!

Once you become her emotional tampon is almost impossible to escape from that role.
 

joe henny

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ytf would u wait she wants the ****
 
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