She is trying to game me.

[Sofomore]

So I met this girl about a week ago. We hit it off well, got her number and got the kiss close (sober). We definitely had a connection, as she was laughing non-stop when i talked to her, twirled her hair...lots of IOIs. So we're both sophomores in college. This girl just broke up with her boyfriend of 3 years about a month ago. After we kissed she admitted that I was the first guy she had kissed since her boyfriend.

Since the night we made out, I have seen her at 2 frat parties. She constantly just "appears" right behind me, ALWAYS making sure she is talking to another guy.

Now, I have a lot of friends that are girls, so naturally I'm flirting with them. I never did catch her glancing over but I felt that her presence most definitely was not a coincidence.

Last night, she saw me talking to her friends, because we have a few mutual friends. She gave her number to the guy she was talking to, clearly trying to make me jealous. Now of course its obvious shes playing games, trying to see if I crack, but I'm holding strong.

Now here is the real stupid part. Being the social guy that I am, I went up to talk to her after she parted ways with the guy. She was not very welcoming at all, and said "My DD is here, gotta go". I am giving her the benefit of the doubt, but I have gotten a weird vibe from her at both parties. I'm thinking of nexting her.

I am going to see her tonight at a party my club is organizing. Any tips on what I should do? She's got me confused as to how I can advance.

 

[playerone]

Don't play into her games. You can tell her, "I would like to get to know you better and take you out (during the day), are you interested." If she doesn't say a straight no, set up a date.

 

[Sofomore]

Thanks for the advice. The night went pretty well. She still tried to look like lots of guys are after her, when in reality she was just talking to my friends. I will call her up today and see if she wants to come over for dinner. Im getting excited, these plates are spinnin!!

 

[WC2]

what you should do is make her jealous. Show up the party with a few girls,
be seen flirting with them continously, and pretend she doesn't exist. When always want what they can't have right? As soon as she sees this, this will desmonstrate that you are not needy and you are a real player.
That is what all women want, a real player. After all, who wants to be with a loser.

What's happened to sosuave while I've been gone.. are people really giving advice like this?

Display higher value. Trying to make a woman jealous is not displaying higher value, it's displaying that you're just another tool.

Girls want a real player? Girls want men who are naturally liked by women because they are naturally players. Men who need to 'try' to be a player are usually the pathetic wastes of life you see jerking off in front of their PCs every night, imagining they are the pimp of the universe.

The reason this chick gave you such a cold goodbye is because she was attempting to make you jealous all night and you just played back into her game by attempting to make her jealous. It's lose-lose game that will never work unless this chick is absolutely head over heels for you or you're about to bring some chick back who's better looking than she is. If a chick is head over heels, she will at least make an attempt to get you talking to her; And if you're bringing back a chick who's better looking, not only is it in your best interest, but it's bound to pop her lid--women HATE being one-uppped.

Ultimately, she saw that you failed to bring any other quality chicks back and when she was about to leave with some dude, you snapped. Too little too late.

Ideally, she wanted YOU to be the man and go up to her and tell her in one word or another - Let's get the f*ck out of here and do something better. AKA, none of these other dudes are sh!t.. you belong with me, let's leave.

I see so many guys trying to play the jealousy game in college and they don't realize that women have been playing this game since they were in diapers; it's not a game we want to play. Jealousy shouldn't be played; it should just happen. You're a good looking guy who's manly with good social skills--good looking women will naturally talk with you--other women will naturally be jealous. Again, you didn't plan for this to happen.

 

[Joe Stud]

Have some girls around you as the above Don's suggest. be playful, flirty. big confident smile. However DONT ignore her, since that will illustrate that you are in fact "working her". Instead, go to her and be flirty, just as you are with the rest of the chicks. Or maybe 80% as flirty. The objective is to be indifferent and consider her just one of the pack. Be well dressed, well groomed, smell great, head up, and confident. And dont forget to spin plates.