She is too busy to see me. Serious?

[summersky]

Hi everyone,

i met a girl that I really like. We went out two times and were kissing. We talked a lot and had fun. The problem is, she is much younger than me. Another problem is that her parents are very strikt and don´t want her to date men. So we talked about it and it seemed to me that it is not a problem for her from how she was talking. After the second date I asked her out after a few days and she told me she is too busy this week but she can make it next week. It is true, she is writing an exam. But she also told me that she is keeping her little free time for her friends. After that we were talking over the phone and it seemed that she now is seeing the problems worse than before and says she doesn´t know if we would have a chance under these circumstances. She also said she doesn´t really know if it´s just the circumstances or if it is cause she doesn´t like me that much after I told her that this can be a reason. But she still wants to continue dating. But I am confused right now. I really like her and already feel something when I think about her.
Please, I need your opinions.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear SummerSky,
Troll me gently with your lies LOL.

 

[summersky]

@Scaramouche: What does that mean? U think my topic is fake?

 

[sodbuster]

"too busy" means you aren't important enough to be moved up on her list of things to schedule time for.... she has low interest. Would she be "too busy" for Brad Pitt?

 

[SBW]

Yup, not a great deal of interest and as an older guy, she might well feel that you won't fit into her social circle - Move-on and if she starts showing more interest, fine but don't expect much from this one.

 

[GS750]

If she's interested she'll make time. If she's not interested she'll make excuses.

 

[Greasy Pig]

History is littered with examples of women disobeying the wishes of others to FR with a man they are passionately interested in.
If she was truly keen on you, she'd find a way to fvck you.

 

[RangerMIke]

Pull back. Never fall for a women until she is gone over you. Low interest, she's gone out with you a couple of times... her interest level should be going up, but instead it is dropping... clearly weak behavior (i.e. realtionship talk, over pursuit) is the cause.

Not sure if you have passed the point of no return, but the only thing you can do at this point is to pull back, give her space and see what happens. Contact her in a couple of weeks and try to make a date.... if you get excuses delete her number and move on.

 

[summersky]

Thank you all!

I dont really know what the reasons are but yeah I was a little needy. She never writes me first. Dont know if she is just too shy? I mean she is really young and comes from another culture. I told her on the dates that I am not sure if we could be together under these circumstances (age, parents), guess it showed her that I am insecure.. Maybe she wanted me to be sure. Because she was..
Everything else was fine I think. Maybe a little too much useless talk rather than building of real rapport. But she was kissing me like crazy..

So I am taking your advice and I went NC. Today is the second day. Damn, really liked her. But one question: She told me she has no time this week but offered the next week.. Isn´t the rule that if she is offering another time, she is still interested? What do you think, maybe she is really stressed out? Cause she picked her phone after that immediately and seemed interested. But anyway I will go NC till she reaches out. Won´t put up with women who don´t give me attention. Doesn´t matter for what reason.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Moved from MM to General Discussion. OP does not have age in his profile.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

"A woman who truly is interested in you will move mountains to see you."


or something like that anyway....

 

[Boxer00]

She can always pass on hanging out with friends.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

My fvck buddy lies to her baby daddy on the phone in their kids room while I wait for her in their bedroom so she can come fvck me... if she wants the d she will get the d.. without shame.

 

[nismo-4]

Some things to remember.

1. She's too busy for you. She wouldn't be too busy if Brad Pitt asked her out. Low interest.

2. Women who are interested in you won't confuse you.

3. When her interest drops, drop her.

4. You wouldn't be too busy if Kate Upton asked you on a date.

5. A woman who is interested in you will rearrange Mars' orbit to get with you.

6. You'd likely pass on going drinking with your friends if Katy Perry wanted to bang you.

7. If you like/ want her more than she wants you, you have lost.

8. Uninterested chicks won't f**k you! Quit wasting your time on them!

Cut your losses. In short, she has low interest and you care too much. It's a lost cause. Judge nismo says.

Case closed. Get out of my court.