She is dating another guy

[Jetleg]

So let me start by saying i'm definitly not a player (anymore), i'm in that phase of life when i just gotta focus on other stuff (studying like hell, trying to save money...)

I've posted about that girl i started seeing, and that she is really excited about meeting etc. we are dating about 2-3 weeks. long story short - the dates are all great, she basically initiates most of the dates, and i seduce her to the level she BEGS me to b@ng and to meet her. she never flaked, or never shown any sign of no interested what so ever.

she was asking me if i date other girls, i said generally yes but not at the moment (the truth, i did'nt know why i said that - dumb answer), she told me she dates another guy, but he is nothing like me bla bla bla and that you can't even compare, i said "cool, lets make a threesome", she obisouly felt like a h0e, telling me again and again she feels so bad with her self about it. (i told her its cool, and just made jokes about it). NOW, SHE IS REALLY JEALOUS - she will see me saying hello and talking to other to other women and asking if banged them etc. i keep making jokes about other girls and it drives her crazy ("did you really did'nt bang her??" - so i'm making sure she knows i got other options.

I'm realizing i've made a mistake, but i still got the feeling she chasing me. the thing is - i do have SOME feeling for her (but not as much as she got for me). if it won't work out, i wouldn't mind that much (the only reason i date her, is because i really do feel we have some connection, which i rarely felt even though i've dated soo many girls), so i got nothing to lose. i just wanna know how i should handle it, since we are meeting in a few days again.

 

[Desdinova]

You're handling it very well. Continue as you're doing and you'll have no problem remaining in control.

But yes, she's a ho.

 

[Jetleg]

Thanks. she will bring it up again, i thought i will try something new, telling her i don't mind, but that i won't be able to take her srsly if she keeps doing it, what do you think? deep inside it sounds kinda beta to me...

 

[Bible_Belt]

she told me she dates another guy...i said "cool, lets make a threesome", she obviously felt like a h0e

HAHAHAHA YES!!! That's my line! I have posted it a lot. Did you get that from me? It worked exactly as planned. You have her right where you want her.

Now start turning the other guy into a joke. "Awww, he REALLY likes you. That's so sweet. Did he get you flowers yet?"

 

[Shootin4Dreams]

You just crush alot. Had to do it

 

[El Payaso]

You have to decide if you want her as a fb or potential gf and act accordingly.

 

[Jetleg]

Bible belt - yeah man i might have! Cant remember. Could u guys give me short advice how to act in both casee? (Gf or fb)

 

[Desdinova]

Bible belt - yeah man i might have! Cant remember. Could u guys give me short advice how to act in both casee? (Gf or fb)

What's there to tell you? You're doing fine. Keep doing what you're doing because it's working. When you come across a potential roadblock, then ask a question.

 

[zekko]

I really don't like that "Let's make it a threesome" line, because you're suggesting a "devil's threesome", two guys and a girl. Like JuanJuan says, you'd have to be bisexual to enjoy that. I'm sure you were just joking, but ick.

If she's dating another guy, then you have two options IMO:
1) Date other girls while continuing to see her, just be sure she stays at plate only status.
2) Date other girls and dump her.

If she asks questions, I would just say you are not seeing anyone seriously.

 

[Jetleg]

update: we had good conversation this morning about our meeting, she kept texting me about how she wants to meet. later i've called her and she texted me that she cant take the call and she'll call me later. (she haven't), looks like she is not interested anymore or just trying to show me to back off from her.

 

[macallik]

You are focusing too much on whether she thinks you have other options, and not enough on how she feels towards you. It takes more than having other women to keep a woman in your life.

 

[Lozboss]

You need to dark OP and go NC. Go find some other girls.

If she gets in touch- set a date and bang her. If she weavers about setting a date then you delete her number.

BUT NEVER MAKE THIS ONE YOUR GIRLFRIEND if you've been dating a while and she getting ploughed by other guys.

Also- I hope you're using condoms every time- before you get whatever nasty some other dude gave her when he finished inside.

 

[Jetleg]

So i've gone NC. she contacted me, we went on a date she told me immediately she wants to be exlusive with me. i agreed (that "what are we?" conversation just popped off) but she told me she needs to "take care" of the other guy, meaning, she will meet him and basically tell him its not gonna work out between them, but she said they never had sex, let alone any kind of physical contact like kissing. I tend to trust her, but i just think its weird she cant just do it over the f***king phone, i asked her why, and she said its not her style, i said fine.

now, im kind of confused, is she f***king with me? on the other side i trust her, but on the other its like she is testing me.

about the other girls - i really dont have time. i'm dating her because i genuinely like her, and willing to give it chance, its not that im desperate. if its not going to work out so be it.

 

[Jetleg]

I feel what you're saying. but honestly i'm not sure she had sex with him, im not denying its a possibility though. its only the fact she is willing to see him again after all which kind of pisses me off. if i'll react all mad, i'll look like an idiot anyway because we're not even together yet, but if ill just let it slide i look like an idiot too, she kinda played it too good.

i guess i need to just get rid of her and continue with my life.