"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She is ****blocking herself (not enough comfort?)

LittleBigOne

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Well, i know this girl for a while. She is always with a small group of female friends and once in a while we meet during parties, nightlife etc.
During a party she gave me her phonenumber and looked pretty much into me.
She likes to play boardgames (just like me) so today i txt her to plan an afternoon playing boardgames at my place. She agreed, really great. But after twenty minutes she txt me that she also asked one of her female friends to join us. WTF!? Well, the female friend agreed.
Is there not enough comfort? Or maybe not interested at all?

What you think?
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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either uncomfortable or (more likely) doesn't want to make it seem like she's into you.
have one of your friends come along then.
 

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Be glad that she has friends and is introducing you to them... it's much better than the other way around. Besides, if her friend "approves" of you that's good for you too.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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It's only the second time you seen her. Maybe, she wanted a girlfriends opinion on you. You will know soon enough if she likes you or not.
 

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For a first date, asking her round to your place could make her a little uneasy and guarded that you might be expecting to lay her right there and then. So she invited her friend to act as ****block. As such, things could be going in either direction with this chick as there's an obvious reason she invited the ****block in this case (which would usually be a red flag and indicator of disinterest).

Better for a first date to be a public place and if things really go well you can always go back to your place later for "board games", "coffee", "show her your stamp collection" or whatever ;). If you arrange another date, make it a public place and if she invites a friend on that, then assume she's not interested.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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goodfoot

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What boardgames were you planning on playing with two people? Most of the good ones need at least three people anyway. Definitely inviting another guy over to wing would be best. It shows you have a social life, plus you two can help each other get in good with the girls. I really am curious about the boardgames. If I can find a chick who loves to play Risk, I may marry her on the spot.
 

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If she doesn't know you that well, she could want someone else there for safety reasons. I've had that happen. Just be very nice and friendly to her friend as well. Once you get approval from her friend, then you are in.
 

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I know these girls for a while now. During the party when i got her number the group of girls invited me to join them on their holiday next year in Asia. It was out of the blue and i still don't know why they asked. And we already had a meeting together to make first plans for this holiday. So i think i have my approval.
But about this specific girl i like, my friends from town know her longer (i am a newby in town) and they say she is 'a sort of hard to get' and is somehow a kind of acting distancly (whoo, my english..) towards men.
Maybe it was a better idea to have a meeting with her in a public place but when she told me about the fact she likes boardgames i could not resist to ask her to come at my place to play boardgames.
The girls live both in my neighberhood so maybe it was for her just an idea to ask her friend to come along.
However, i am looking forward to play and make fun..and to win.
About the boardgames. We are gonna play Colonists of Catan, Scotland Yard, Machiavelli....strippoker???
So, with this edited information, she was ****blocking herself? Or just LOL?
 
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