"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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she is being too excited about meeting again

Jetleg

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hey everyone, i haven't been here for a while.
I met this beautiful girl (she is a solid 10, one of the most beautiful girls i've ever seen), she got great personality - she is just a keeper (unlike many other junk i've came across to).

we had our first date, probably one of the best dates i've ever had (no sex, but made out like crazy). i've made plans for the weekend, but she just texts me non-stop, she even texted me that she "really likes me". i'm just thrown back by her being so up front and direct (and coming from such a hot chick as well), and at the same time i don't want to excited like her, because i sense it might turn her off big time, is it the right thing, or i might turn off by seeing not that intrested? i barely text her back, but i flirt with her. (i mean damn, she even asked me if i'm seeing any other girls at the end of the date)

advice? i don't really want to miss her...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Don't let it get your your head, just play it cool. She might be constantly texting you to test how available you are.
 

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From a relationship point of view I like the perspective that nothing counts until you have at least two months or ten meets in with her.

Why? Because you can only then see a pattern to her behaviour

The thing is that you say that you had your "first date" and that she is such a "keeper". Can you see the problem with thinking like that? You don't know her but already you've placed her in the keeper category. You don't know her. What if she has a mental illness? still such a keeper? what if she has daddy issues? still such a keeper?

It's like credit ratings......if someone has a five year car loan for example.....and two years have passed and they have made every payment. They have enough time in and enough positive feedback (the payments) in order to warrent a good credit rating.........take another person and they've just started to make repayments on their loan....they haven't missed anypayments but they haven't had enough time in, in order to be truly given a positive credit rating...TOO EARLY TO EVALUATE

this girl has not had enough time in with you and you're already given her a really positive credit rating. TOO EARLY TO EVALUATE

Just concentrate on the next meet up and on bringing value to the table (fun, positive emotions a good time) I would take her over eagerness as a RED FLAG. She could be one of these BPD hot and cold biatches. Play your game as normal and watch out for any more red flags.
 

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From a relationship point of view I like the perspective that nothing counts until you have at least two months or ten meets in with her.

Why? Because you can only then see a pattern to her behaviour

The thing is that you say that you had your "first date" and that she is such a "keeper". Can you see the problem with thinking like that? You don't know her but already you've placed her in the keeper category. You don't know her. What if she has a mental illness? still such a keeper? what if she has daddy issues? still such a keeper?

It's like credit ratings......if someone has a five year car loan for example.....and two years have passed and they have made every payment. They have enough time in and enough positive feedback (the payments) in order to warrent a good credit rating.........take another person and they've just started to make repayments on their loan....they haven't missed anypayments but they haven't had enough time in, in order to be truly given a positive credit rating...TOO EARLY TO EVALUATE

this girl has not had enough time in with you and you're already given her a really positive credit rating. TOO EARLY TO EVALUATE

Just concentrate on the next meet up and on bringing value to the table (fun, positive emotions a good time) I would take her over eagerness as a RED FLAG. She could be one of these BPD hot and cold biatches. Play your game as normal and watch out for any more red flags.
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From a relationship point of view I like the perspective that nothing counts until you have at least two months or ten meets in with her.

Why? Because you can only then see a pattern to her behaviour

The thing is that you say that you had your "first date" and that she is such a "keeper". Can you see the problem with thinking like that? You don't know her but already you've placed her in the keeper category. You don't know her. What if she has a mental illness? still such a keeper? what if she has daddy issues? still such a keeper?

It's like credit ratings......if someone has a five year car loan for example.....and two years have passed and they have made every payment. They have enough time in and enough positive feedback (the payments) in order to warrent a good credit rating.........take another person and they've just started to make repayments on their loan....they haven't missed anypayments but they haven't had enough time in, in order to be truly given a positive credit rating...TOO EARLY TO EVALUATE

this girl has not had enough time in with you and you're already given her a really positive credit rating. TOO EARLY TO EVALUATE

Just concentrate on the next meet up and on bringing value to the table (fun, positive emotions a good time) I would take her over eagerness as a RED FLAG. She could be one of these BPD hot and cold biatches. Play your game as normal and watch out for any more red flags.
exactly.. she's a 10 and over eager like that, I'd see it as a red flag too. Update us after you've banged her a few dozen times and let us know if she managed to retain her "keeper" status. After 6 months dating her, tell us again about her "great personality". I don't want to sound negative, she MAY be great, but remember, in the beginning phase of any relationship, people tend to ignore red flags and personality flaws, and over exaggerate the positives of the person in their mind. I have a rule of thumb in my relationships.. I remind myself that I have NO CLUE who the girl is or how she behaves until AFTER our first big argument.. which can take 6 months or even a year. Before a big argument, you know little of how she really thinks, behaves, etc
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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legendary and Reykhel - thanks for the great response, as always in this forum.
sure, i agree with you, i will treat her just normally like all the other girls, but deep indside i kinda like her (very beta, but it happens sometimes)

I don't live in the US, in a pretty big city, and all the chicks here are sh!t, sure i had a lot of sex, but i had only one GF im my whole life..... (and only one month as well), maybe its off topic, but i wish sometimes that these "good girls" (im not saying she is) out there will look at me as BF material haha
 

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as long as she's not out of your league you've got nothing to worry about. if you're like a 6 and a 10 is super into you that raises some questions, but if you're like a 10 and a 7 is worshipping you, isn't that par for course?

if you're both 10s and she likes you it makes sense she acts like she's really into you, etc.
 
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