She hints i should buy her stuff

[DJinTraining06]

Ok so it's becoming obvious to me lately that my gf wants me to buy her stuff. We been going out 3 months and i havent bought her anything aside on valentines day, and burning her a few cd's. Recently she bought me a purple bunny pez dispenser as a joke and then a week later she bought me a 15 dollar gift - somethin i actually wanted. And she keeps mentioning that she bought it for me over and over in a jokin way. Also in the past month or so she keeps making this jokin remark that i should go buy her presents. LShe says it so often that im starting to think its almost obvious shes sending me signals that she wants me to get her stuff once in a while. I shouldnt have to right? I mean i know little gifts here and there r nice, but i cant think of one thing to get her. I def aint gettin her anything expensive. She doesnt seem to be a materialistic girl, but im gettin the strong vibe that she wants a lil cutesy gift every once in a while. What do u guys think of this?

 

[penkitten]

no, you dont have to buy her love. shes just been a gf for 3 months. 3 months is nothing to invest all your money in yet.
if you want to buy her a silly cutesy gift once in a blue moon, theres no harm but its up to you what you buy , not her.

 

[omgwtfm8]

Once you start buying and buying, and then you stop. She's gonna feel like somethings missing. happens all the time.

 

[Obsidian]

It's immature to buy someone something (when it's not even a holiday!) with the expectation that they buy you something back. Seriously, don't let the woman lead the relationship, or immature nonsense like this will sprout up everywhere and destroy everything.

 

[foomee]

I just came out of a 13 month relationship and I realized and came to my sense that I spent way too much on this girl. She didn't spend half as much on me. Food is ok, but gifts... stop buying her gifts. And never buy her a gift on your month anniversary... save the money for the year. And at 3 months, she's not worth it yet. Wait 3 more months for half a year.

 

[spider_007]

things to buy her;

teddy bear ($10-15 - when she deservs it)
box of condoms (make sure you wrap it u nicely - with a bow)
etc....

it has to be an inside joke....something you two ware joking around about....

NOTTING EXPENCIVE....little funny stuff. ONCE IN A WHILE, WHEN SHE BEHAVES. Make sure it's never when your fighting.

 

[Snowyk]

Buying stuff for a girl winds up being much more appreciated as a gesture if it is a small, unexpected and thoughtful gift.

It doesn't matter WHAT you get her on Valentines day, because she's expecting a gift. It doesn't matter if you drop $50 on flowers or pick a $3 bunch up from the servo on the way to hers because she's expecting SOMETHING.

The true power in gift giving is the unexpectedness of it.

If you have to buy something, make it small and make it unexpected. Just don't do it too frequently and NEVER get her something that she has specifically asked for when she asks for it.

 

[DJinTraining06]

Buying stuff for a girl winds up being much more appreciated as a gesture if it is a small, unexpected and thoughtful gift.

It doesn't matter WHAT you get her on Valentines day, because she's expecting a gift. It doesn't matter if you drop $50 on flowers or pick a $3 bunch up from the servo on the way to hers because she's expecting SOMETHING.

The true power in gift giving is the unexpectedness of it.

If you have to buy something, make it small and make it unexpected. Just don't do it too frequently and NEVER get her something that she has specifically asked for when she asks for it.

i cant think of anything, i havent gotten her anything yet besides v-day and 3 buirned cd's which was a couple monhts ago. im out of inside joke gift ideas, i got her 2 for v-day. She is almost making it obvious she wants that. I would bet money her best friends bf who she also met 3 months ago, just bought her stuff. Hes that kind of guy, and i know girls r jealous as hell so its a strong possibility. I dont even wanna get her a gift, she was being annoying yesterday. She was teasing me cuz i went on a retreat once in college (which i dont think is overly nerdy i think its kinda just neutral or wahtever, who cares right?) I got annoyed with her, i flat out told her she was a snob. She thoguht i was joking but i really wasnt lol. Im just not in the mood to get her a gift today. She has been in the habit lately of making jokes about my firends or bout my colelge yrs cuz my friends are a lil on the dorky side. And i wanna kinda whip her into shape and stop that, so a gift now is def a bad idea right? I feel like i gotta withdraw a little attention from her to keep her from gettin a lil too comfortable with me. Either that or just play it off cool and crack jokes on her, like how she doesnt know who her mayor or governor are. Sorry to stray off topic

 

[Cremasta]

Recently she bought me a purple bunny pez dispenser as a joke and then a week later she bought me a 15 dollar gift - somethin i actually wanted.

This is what you should be doing... getting her something small but actually means something. Women don't give you brownie points according to how much the present cost, but how thoughtful it was.
For example, she's reading through a fashion magazine and points out a necklace that she really likes, if you went and got her a bit of costume jewellery that looks just like it and only costs you $10, if she knows you spent time looking for it, the amount of kudos you get would make your head spin... this is because you listened to her and made an effort, she won't care if it costs $10 or $500... unless she's a really shallow b!tch.

Of course you shouldn't get into a habit of buying her presents, but don't stand on some high ground thinking "I shouldn't have to buy her stuff!". The question here really is... do you want to buy her presents?

I've been with my current gf for over 3 years now and on average I might get her something small worth $15 max, maybe once every couple of months. It's the surprise and thought that counts. Girls like to be given gifts, it's just the way they are.

 

[mrRuckus]

I have no patience for this stuff anymore.

It's really too much effort to get worthless gifts for girls. I feel like when i'm in a relationship i need to set up some sort of calendar system that emails me that it's been 42.3 days since the last time i gave a gift so i better make up some bullsh1t to give her to shut her up because i know by day 47.82 she will be b1tching i don't give her anything (EVER, mind you), nevermind the fact that i nightly blow her mind in bed, never even consider cheating on her, and i patiently listen to her vapid work stories about her pathetic women friends that stay with men that beat them or whatever else. I'm a million times better than and treat her better than other guys she or her friends have been with and she still wants to complain about stupid meaningless sh1t. ZZZZZZZZZZZZ


My most recent LONG term relationship, every once in a while she'd start to complain i don't do anything right when i was planning something really nice just to be nice because i felt like doing it. Then i'd tell her about it and cancel the whole thing because she ruined it by whining. Yeah that one didn't last much longer after that stuff started... I don't reward whining.

 

[mrRuckus]

Girls like to be given gifts, it's just the way they are.

I like to randomly be surprised and get head while i'm sitting on the couch watching tv but a girl never gives that to me. That's just the way I am.

It's unbelievable the amount of things women want and think they deserve but never give in return.

They would be fvckin AMAZED the attention and appreciation and free vacations and fancy cooked meals they'd get out of me if they would do stuff like that but they only think "me me me." I try to be the bigger guy and do some of the nicety things they want first instead of waiting around for someone to initiate these things but then little to nothing comes back my way so i stop bothering then they b1tch that i "changed" and want to break up. No i didn't change, you just didn't hold up your end of the bargain and i'm no fool.

 

[LunaMia01]

She wants your gifts.Maybe she is those types of girsl that need gift to feel loved or wanted.

 

[DJinTraining06]

I like to randomly be surprised and get head while i'm sitting on the couch watching tv but a girl never gives that to me. That's just the way I am.

It's unbelievable the amount of things women want and think they deserve but never give in return.

They would be fvckin AMAZED the attention and appreciation and free vacations and fancy cooked meals they'd get out of me if they would do stuff like that but they only think "me me me." I try to be the bigger guy and do some of the nicety things they want first instead of waiting around for someone to initiate these things but then little to nothing comes back my way so i stop bothering then they b1tch that i "changed" and want to break up. No i didn't change, you just didn't hold up your end of the bargain and i'm no fool.

Yea seriosuly wat the hell do they do for us. I never get head from a girl unless its their period, so its like once a month, and i kinda have to hint that i want it. And guaranteed even that will end eventually when she realizes she has me. Frankly i cant blame them, its gotta be nasty to swallow or even spit which is i think must be worse for them. But hey i go down on her, i always go down on her, i pay for her dinner and drinks most of the time, i pick her up and watch while she gets drunk with her friends while me and the other girls boyfriend cant have more than a drink or 2 cuz were driving. And i still gotta get gifts ever month or so, its annoying. Where's my head lol

 

[Delta]

if it doesn't seem like a materialistic grab for stuff, especially if she hasn't mentioned a specific thing she wants, she probably just wants to feel some sentiment from you by way of gift giving... make em small and thoughtful and if she's good, then you're safe and she's not a gold digger... just a girl.

delta

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

hint that she should suck you off

 

[DJinTraining06]

if it doesn't seem like a materialistic grab for stuff, especially if she hasn't mentioned a specific thing she wants, she probably just wants to feel some sentiment from you by way of gift giving... make em small and thoughtful and if she's good, then you're safe and she's not a gold digger... just a girl.

delta

wtf do i get her, i cant think of anything. A dvd she likes? a teddy bear, i have no clue.

 

[DJinTraining06]

hint that she should suck you off

yea her gift can be my schlong. :crackup:

 

[Create Reality]

yea her gift can be my schlong. :crackup:

The gift that keeps on giving...






































For 5 WHOLE MINUTES! :crackup:

 

[DJinTraining06]

she laughed at me last nite cuz i told her i went on a retreat in college, cuz apparently all she ever did was get wasted every day when she was in college. I wasnt even a dorky retreat kinda guy, a friend convinced me to go and i ended up going with like 10 people i knew and had a great time, even tho it was a religious retreat. Not like they make u pray or anything, u just chill upstate with no cares in the world for a weekend, its actually fun. Im annoyed cuz she always does that sh*t, i dont wanna get her a gift. She acts like im being stupid for gettin mad. Meanwhile i think shes stupid for being so small minded, since she thinks unless u got wasted every day of ur life in college, u were a nerd. Why should i reward her for being annoying. Ill get a gift when i want to not when she tells me to, its like im takin orders now.

 

[thickandcreamy]

You never want money to become the focus of your relationship. If I meet a chick like the one you describe, I drop her faster than Bishop don magic juan b1tch slapping one of his hoecakes:

http://www.chicagoist.com/archives/2004/08/26/pimp_doughnuts_fa_shizzle.php

But to be honest, I rarely if ever encounter a girl like that. Typically, when I'm dating, the girl is paying for my stuff: movie, a meal, movie and a meal. Maybe my gas money. I figure if I have to put out, she can make a financial contribution on my behalf.

Seriously, there are too many beautiful single women out there who are willing to pay you for your time, you'd be a damn lunatic to string this worthless little two bit along. Drop her and find something else. It's really not that difficult. Drop this trick, and FAST.


Thick

Ok so it's becoming obvious to me lately that my gf wants me to buy her stuff. We been going out 3 months and i havent bought her anything aside on valentines day, and burning her a few cd's. Recently she bought me a purple bunny pez dispenser as a joke and then a week later she bought me a 15 dollar gift - somethin i actually wanted. And she keeps mentioning that she bought it for me over and over in a jokin way. Also in the past month or so she keeps making this jokin remark that i should go buy her presents. LShe says it so often that im starting to think its almost obvious shes sending me signals that she wants me to get her stuff once in a while. I shouldnt have to right? I mean i know little gifts here and there r nice, but i cant think of one thing to get her. I def aint gettin her anything expensive. She doesnt seem to be a materialistic girl, but im gettin the strong vibe that she wants a lil cutesy gift every once in a while. What do u guys think of this?