She has no time...

[ARrocket]

Well, this girl I go to school with is interested in me...as I am with her. She hasn't said it, but I'm about 99.9% sure she likes me. She's also pretty jealous of one of my (sexy) female friends. Anyway, the girl has no free time. She works every night during the weekend (and I work during the days....sigh). Now, I wanna ask this girl out on a date, but she works every f*cking night, and I don't know what to do. I was thinking of saying "hey lets go (wherever)" and when she asks when, I'll say "the next time you're free." Normally, I wouldn't do something like that, but in this situation, do you think that's an ok idea? Does anybody have any other suggestions?

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

Well, this girl I go to school with is interested in me...as I am with her. She hasn't said it, but I'm about 99.9% sure she likes me. She's also pretty jealous of one of my (sexy) female friends. Anyway, the girl has no free time. She works every night during the weekend (and I work during the days....sigh). Now, I wanna ask this girl out on a date, but she works every f*cking night, and I don't know what to do. I was thinking of saying "hey lets go (wherever)" and when she asks when, I'll say "the next time you're free." Normally, I wouldn't do something like that, but in this situation, do you think that's an ok idea? Does anybody have any other suggestions?

Dont say that . Dont say NEXT TIME YOUR FREE .

Better say we will decide together , when both of us are free .

Dont give her that much power .

 

[DonJuan11]

I was thinking of saying "hey lets go (wherever)" and when she asks when, I'll say "the next time you're free."

Brutal dude. Don't ask that, what if she's never free?

Pick a day and time. If she can't make it and she's interested, she will counter your offer. If not, then she may not be 99.9% interested in you.

 

[ARrocket]

ok thanks...I guess I will go hope for a counteroffer then.

 

[Jitterbug]

What about weeknights? She doesn't work on weeknights, does she? They're better for first dates than weekends. Less pressure too.

 

[ARrocket]

Well I know weeknights would be ideal, but we are both high school students with pretty strict schedules on weeknights....well, for me, anyway. I'm assuming for her as well. Even if you don't consider school...I work 3 out of the 4 nights anyway.

 

[Jitterbug]

Does she have any friends at all being so busy? If she does, I can bet you that she has plenty of free time. She just isn't spending it with you.

Anyway, if you have incompatible schedules, work on another plate. You're in a similar situation I had. I hooked up with her a couple of times then nexted her, when there was no sign of her managing her time any better to spend more time with me. By the look of it, you're just as busy as her, if not more, but you can still manage your time to make time for her. She isn't returning the favour. Exactly what happened in my case.

 

[ARrocket]

Well, the thing is, I've been talking to her for a long time, but only recently have I been interested in her (she's seemed interested from the start). She has always told me that she has no kind of free time because she is always working.

And yes, I'm focusing on other girls as well, but I like this one

 

[Jitterbug]

How are you talking to her? Do you meet in person or is it via the Internet/phone?

She's the only one who can manage her time and priorities. If you're on top of her priorities, she will find the time to see you (and vice versa, if you think about it). Meanwhile, keep increasing her BT or interest level until you get to the top of her must-do list.

 

[ARrocket]

But see, that's just the thing...I'm scared she's starting to lose interest since I have been taking sooo long to make a move. Plus, she's really jealous of one of my female friends, which of course initially was good, but if I'm taking so long, that could backfire....what if she just assumes I'm not interested? I mean I flirt with her everyday, but I've been doing that since November or so....I've increased a lot since I became interested, but if that's all I do, she's gonna lose interest...So I guess I'd better hurry and do something.