"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Listen up younger guys.

In case you have not noticed, many attractive girls already have boyfriends.

However, don't let this stop you:

I strongly believe many girls are insecure and would rather be with someone they are not crazy about, rather than be alone.


Back in my undergrad days, I got good vibes from some girls that had boyfriends. Since I was a "nice guy" back then, I did not pursue them because I felt it was disrespectful and wrong to the b/f that I did not know.

I now see how illogical this way of thinking was. Like I said, the b/f could be an ******* who does not deserve her or you could be 5X smarter and better looking than him. Also, the same guy, if the roles were reversed, would most likely not give a fukk about you and your feelings anyway.


So, don't let the boyfriend thing stop you from flirting with that girl (who has a boyfriend) or asking her out if she gives you good vibes. After all, her b/f could be an ******* and you might be better looking than him.

Dating world is a dog eat dog world.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DAMN RIGHT BRO!!! Truer words have never been spoken (except for "cannabis prohibition is BS" and "Emo kids are the most inferior representation of mankind ever to exist")

But ya, ur definitely right about the whole bf bit. Also note that women (and people in general actually) are becoming increasingly fickle with relationships. If you're hotter and more of a pimp than her b/f she'd most likely be happy to leave his ass for you.

Also, the whole b/f thing might just be playing hard to get. I had a chick tell me that she had a b/f once only to find that it was just her way of making herself seem more wanted/desired to me, as this "b/f" was just some AFC with $$ that she took advantage of for awhile until someone who satisfied her feminine needs came along.
 

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I had a chick tell me that she had a b/f once only to find that it was just her way of making herself seem more wanted/desired to me, as this "b/f" was just some AFC with $$ that she took advantage of for awhile until someone who satisfied her feminine needs came along.


Typical
 

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mahon83050 said:
So, don't let the boyfriend thing stop you from flirting with that girl (who has a boyfriend) or asking her out if she gives you good vibes. After all, her b/f could be an ******* and you might be better looking than him.

Dating world is a dog eat dog world.
How about getting SHOT TO DEATH?

Some pist off boyfriend comes back with a loaded gun. I have heard that happen on more than one occasion. You see & hear it on the news all the time.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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http://www.chron.com/disp/story.mpl/metropolitan/4185595.html
Police seek ex-boyfriend suspected in fatal shootings

By ANNE MARIE KILDAY
Copyright 2006 Houston Chronicle

Houston Police Department homicide investigators said Wednesday that the ex-boyfriend of a woman who lives at the Shadowtree Apartments in southwest Houston is alive and still at large after shooting her new boyfriend and one of his friends Tuesday.

Homicide division Sgt. B. Evans said homicide detectives thought the woman's former boyfriend, a 26-year-old Houston resident, was killed after he shot her new boyfriend, a 38-year-old Hurricane Katrina evacuee, about 6:20 p.m. Tuesday.

Police said the Louisiana man died after he opened the door of the woman's apartment and was shot in the face.

Evans explained that police learned the man lying dead in the apartment courtyard was a friend of the Louisiana man only after the Harris County Medical Examiner arrived at the scene at 9475 W. Sam Houston Parkway. The friend apparently pursued the gunman into the courtyard, where he was shot, Evans said.

"When the ME arrived on the scene, we determined the man in the courtyard was not the woman's old boyfriend," Evans said.

There was no gun found at the scene, Evans said.

"It appears that the old boyfriend shot the other guy's friend. He is on the loose," Evans said.

The woman, who also is a Hurricane Katrina evacuee, was taken downtown to HPD headquarters for questioning immediately after the shootings.

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http://www.cleveland.com/news/plaindealer/index.ssf?/base/cuyahoga/1146040903219270.xml&coll=2
Ex-boyfriend shot woman, then self, coroner says
Wednesday, April 26, 2006

North Olmsted- Cuyahoga County Coroner Elizabeth Balraj said a woman who was killed by an ex-boyfriend, who, in turn, killed himself, was shot more than 10 times in the head, chest, abdomen and arms.

Deborah Fox, 53, was found dead Monday in her townhouse on Clairshire Drive. Phillip Logan, 47, of Lakewood, was also found dead of a single gunshot wound to the head.

Police suspect Logan was upset because the couple's relationship had recently ended, said Capt. Wayne Wozniak. Police said neither victim had a criminal history.

Balraj ruled Fox's death a homicide and said Logan's wound appeared to be self-inflicted.

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If you want to bonk a chick with a boyfriend, or in Espi's case husband (way to slip in the brag dude), go for it.

But don't go cowering in the corner when someone comes to kick your ass. All is fair in love and war right?
 

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There are literally hundreds of thousands of SINGLE women out there. Get out of the scarcity mindset! Dont be stupid.
 

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If you're just looking for sex, than taken girls are usually the easiest to bang. In most cases they're in a stagnating relationship and are looking for some form of excitement.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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There are thousands of girls everywhere one can have sex with. One man in my neighbourhood got killed because of that. He had his head crushed in by a baseball bat.
Guys need to get out of the AFC scarcity framework.
 
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Hit on a girl even if she has a boyfriend? Umm..

This is great advice..

..if you have a death wish.
 

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well what if you had a girlfriend and some better DJ than you flirted with her?.. and thinked exacly the same as you? would u like that?
 

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Somehow I always end up being the "other guy" in situations like this.

A lot of girls out there who I meet who are in relationships and are essentially "cheating" with me tell me they want to be single, but I think the truth is more that they don't want to be single...they want to be attached, but not to the person they're with.

"Single" is becoming a dirty word with women, kind of like "slut". Because everyone assumes a single girl is "sleeping around". Another result of the inability of common women to separate love and sex.

Point is that a lot of them want to have a firm grip on the next rung before they let go of the current one. That's why I don't respect the "boyfriend" position if the girl is showing IOIs toward me anyway. I'm doing him a favor by exposing his girl for not being as into him as he thinks. ;)

The problem is that a lot of times, as soon as you start to establish "friendly" rapport with a girl like this, the ASD comes in hardcore. Lots of girls will tell you they CAN have casual sex, but they have to have NO feeling whatsoever for the guy...it has to be truly CASUAL.

It's an all-or-nothing approach, which means it's almost better to be a mysterious stranger than a semi-acquaintance or a friend...because as soon as she has SOME feelings for you, lots of times she won't bang you until she's in a relationship with you.

Sad, I know...it's so hard to find girls who can separate love and sex enough to have a "fvck-buddy" or a "friend with benefits".

They're out there...and it can't hurt to try to "liberate" the classical, regressive ones, but it shouldn't surprise you if they're to ingrained with classical conditioning to set themselves free.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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There's a huge difference between scouting out girls who have boyfriends and simply ignoring the fact that she does. Whether or not she's willing to cheat is her perogative, and if it were my girlfriend cheating on me, I sure as hell wouldn't be blaming the guy.
 

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If you have a girlfriend already then its a always a good ideal to pack a gun.
 

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This is happening to me right now actually. I am dating this girl who actually lied to me about being single. The BF spies on her now and knows everything about me. She told the guy we are only friends and at during the same time told me we needed to take it slower. Pretty much playing us both.

I found everything out when the guy gave me a call after he read some messeges on her Cell. The call actually broke up and when I tried to call him back he actually got frighting and I thought I wanted to harrass him. I just called to find out some info on her.

Well now I dont take this girl serious but we are still sort of intimate. I am a bit afraid the BF might go haywire one day after being cheated on for so long (almost 8 months and she hans't stopped! He found out on the 4th month)

So yeah BF situations are complicated and dangerous but if your good you'll know how to get rid of the BF without him aiming the blame on you (I was good at him not blaming me but not good at getting rid of him). On top of that you should know that the girl might be cheating on you with the same guy later (Thats the way men get back at women). But if you're just out for some fun, I see nothing wrong if you can handle and manipulate the situation.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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