"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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she has a bf.

jakeyboy

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Yes, hello my fellow DJs!

It's great to be back after a rather long hiatus, and i'm sorry it has to start with "SHE HAS A BF". I know, rather AFC of me... but I'm pretty clueless when it comes to this because I've never actually tried anything with a girl who was already taken.

I guess in this case it's quite different because he's a fvcking loser. I mean seriously. When she heads out for lunch with her friend, he goes like "So you've got your friend, don't need me anymore do you?" What kinda freak does thaaaat?!

Anyhow, I got her to my place, had a few drinks and we started making out and it got kinda got and heavy. And then her bf came to pick her up from my place. Which is sooooooooooo ironic. Unsuspecting foool indeed.

But she hasn't broken it off with him yet, she's playing real hard to get, she flirts like anything then suddenly shows little interest in me. Man, what a messer.

Any suggestions guys?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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bluemanson

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I agree with the big cheese.

Leave her ass alone unless you want her all to yourself.
i have been in this situation before and it is so not worth it
 
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