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she has a bf but....

J.R.G.G

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She has a bf but according to her she wants to be with me, argues that she dosent want to be with him anymore, they were already engaged after almost 5 years of being toghether. But she called it of and slowed down things.

Now, she calls me alot, we have seen eachother in the past 4-5 months, we kiss whenever we see eachother, but have to hide from everyone, Go out of town if we want to go out so that way nobody knows us.


Anyways, this is his first and only bf she has had, but they only saw eachother once a month because he lives 8 hours away. They werent allowed by her parents to go out until their second year of relationship, and during that time he was caught cheating with a girl that was claiming she was pregnant with one of his child. (this was before i met her).

According to her every time she tries to break up with him, (which is almost everytime by the phone) he starts to cry, he begs, asks for another chance, says that without her he is going to kill himself, stuff like that, but for some reason her parents preassure her to not leave him and it just dosent happen.


whenever we see eachother we never fight, we alway have the best time and are always in a good mood.


The only problem is that its hard to believe that she cant dump the guy, i dont preassure her because iam ok with the situation, except that i know its wrong and if we continue like this we will never be serious or have a real realtionship, now , she says shes completely in love of me, and that she wishes that one day she is able to dump the guy or him dumping her.


What i mean is that she is looking foward to leave him and if i want and if iam still avaible to start something serious and ''legal''.
But its not going to be whenever she wants and it would critical for her to start acting fast if not that something that she wants with me is never going to happen.

Has anybody been in a similar situation, if you were on the same situation what would you do? Could it be true that it is so hard to leave a cry baby wuzz? DO you think i should just let her know that iam not going to be waiting and that i will be with other girls if i decide to give it a shot whenever and if it happens?

I see other girls now, but i never let her know, besides shes like the only girl that i do like, she is also like my best friend so i wouldnt hurt her.
 

Blue Phoenix

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This girl seems to be a "player".

Well, keep dating her if it´s what you want, but beware that she may be lying to you about this other guy.

Most of the times, girls that cheat are not Ltr material! Don´t forget this.
 

J.R.G.G

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iam aware that may be the case, but you never know... until you see it.
 

frivolousz21

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ive cheated with 2 diff girls?

can I ever change or is that something Im ****ed with?
 

PRMoon

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This sounds like a pathetic day time soap. Girl wants to leave guy for other guy but current guy drags it out for weeks, months what have you. I mean come on do you really need this kind of drama in your young life? Also don't you have other, more availible girls in your pipline? Why spend so much time with an obvious drama queen who has no experience in the relm of dating?

You need think about how much time you've spent with this girl and compare it too how much time you spend finding something (someone) whos equally compatable but also completely availible and isn't going to be so wishy washy on subjects like this one. Go out, have fun don't worry too much about girls who are obvious fence sitters.
 

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She is not going to leave him for you, she is just using you to fill a temporary void. If you just wanna bang her then fine, thats you, but I wouldn't expect a relationship out of it.
 

mrmoe

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I was in a similar situation with a girl who was on the supposed outs with her bf at the time. Looking back on it, I was really stupid for believing her lies of wanting to be with me. Was a big headache that I'll never fall victim to again. If she really did want to be with you, she would ditch the wussy guy, no questions. Don't be blinded by these feelings towards her cuz it sounds like she's using you to her advantage. I say you do your thing with the other girls and let this one sort out her own issues before you pursue anything with her.
 
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