she has a bf.. am i being used for comfort?

[tony-montana]

i think i just got suckered in. there is a very pretty girl who i've been talking for a while on chat. (YEAH CHAT I KNOW. LAME) anyway, i knew she had a bf but shes not happy with her relationship she's said a few times. she keeps saying her life sucks n blah blah.. i think she's depressed. i told her some personal stuff about me how i had a crappy family life and moved away cause of it. cause shes in a similar situation. she called me the other night. we had a little talk.. nothing serious. five mins. she txts me sometimes saying she loves me (friendly i guess) and stuff like that. but today she told me this;

her: (11:59 PM):
*i think i need to get offline
her: (11:59 PM):
*completely
me: (11:59 PM):
*you think the internet is doing no good for you?
her: (11:59 PM):
*at the moment yeah
her: (12:00 AM):
*worst day
her: (12:00 AM):
*my bf hates me now
her: (12:00 AM):
*he's ignorin gme
me: (12:00 AM):
*when i had **** days internet was my only escape heh
her: (12:00 AM):
*i told him his words of comfort are making me feel worse
her: (12:00 AM):
*and that they do lately, all the time
her: (12:01 AM):
*i know what you mean
her: (12:01 AM):
*but i guess this is kinda worse
her: (12:01 AM):
*relationship breakdown
her: (12:01 AM):
*and a potentially one eyed cat <-- her cat got an injured eye
her: (12:01 AM):
*is a bit worse than bad day
me: (12:01 AM):
*ive had many of those days ;/
her: (12:01 AM):
*=/
me: (12:01 AM):
*in the end you'll get through it
her: (12:02 AM):
*i guess so
me: (12:02 AM):
*things always get better
me: (12:02 AM):
*eventually
her: (12:02 AM):
*hey
her: (12:02 AM):
*telling someone their words of comfort make you feel worse
her: (12:02 AM):
*is that really offensive
her: (12:02 AM):
*why would he do this to me
her: (12:03 AM):
*ignore me when i already feel like ****
her: (12:03 AM):
*he never really does this
her: (12:03 AM):
***** man
her: (12:03 AM):
*time for a smoke
me: (12:04 AM):
*:/
her: (12:04 AM):
*now getting a smoke is a problem too
her: (12:04 AM):
*cause
her: (12:04 AM):
*it's tobacco
her: (12:04 AM):
*and my dad's
me: (12:04 AM):
*dont smoke.
her: (12:05 AM):
*don't worry
her: (12:05 AM):
*it's only gonna be one
her: (12:05 AM):
*=/
me: (12:05 AM):
*dont do ittttttttt
me: (12:05 AM):
*find another solution
me: (12:05 AM):
*not smoke
me: (12:05 AM):
*i listen to music
me: (12:06 AM):
*keep yourself busy
her: (12:06 AM):
**nods*
her: (12:06 AM):
*um
her: (12:06 AM):
*i'll be back later
her: (12:06 AM):
*thanks for the talkies max
me: (12:06 AM):
*alright


- i tried to not reply when she spoke about her bf. i don't want her getting use to the fact that i'll help her out with her relationship. but i think i've already been suckered in. what do i do guys? what if she breaks up with her bf and wants to catch up? it happened to me once in the past. girl broke up with her bf and i hooked up with her, lol.

 

[Max Power]

This is the best way to deal with women when they bring up their boyfriends

her: (11:59 PM):
*i think i need to get offline
her: (11:59 PM):
*completely
me: (11:59 PM):
*you think the internet is doing no good for you?
her: (11:59 PM):
*at the moment yeah
her: (12:00 AM):
*worst day
her: (12:00 AM):
*my bf hates me now
her: (12:00 AM):
*he's ignorin gme
me: (12:00AM)
*BRB

12:01AM (Me has logged off)

 

[SickAgain]

Ever heard of an emotional affair? This might be one. Anyways, one of my main rules is never to become a girl's therapist. Be the solution to her problems.

 

[nismo-4]

Ever heard of an emotional affair? This might be one. Anyways, one of my main rules is never to become a girl's therapist.

Doing so puts you in the friendzone.

 

[doctorj]

Ever heard of an emotional affair? This might be one. Anyways, one of my main rules is never to become a girl's therapist. Be the solution to her problems.

but what if you make the girl your therapist? Is it a form of turning the tables or would it do you no good, especially if she's a girl you're gaming

 

[Pimp-sicle]

There are situations where a girl with a bf is interested in a new guy and looking to branch swing.

In this situation she's using you as an emotional tampon. Every girl I've ever hooked up with that had a bf or eventually left their bf, RARELY if ever, brought up their bf.

If she brings him up once, no biggie, but if she's talking about him in detail, whether its good or bad, YOU are in the friend zone dude.



PIMP

 

[f283000]

This is the best way to deal with women when they bring up their boyfriends

her: (11:59 PM):
*i think i need to get offline
her: (11:59 PM):
*completely
me: (11:59 PM):
*you think the internet is doing no good for you?
her: (11:59 PM):
*at the moment yeah
her: (12:00 AM):
*worst day
her: (12:00 AM):
*my bf hates me now
her: (12:00 AM):
*he's ignorin gme
me: (12:00AM)
*BRB

12:01AM (Me has logged off)

the awesomeness of this post has to be mentioned :woo:

 

[Duffdog]

Here's a tip:

If you even know about the boyfriend before you have sex with her, you aren't going to have sex with her. There is no reason for the word "boyfriend" to escape her mouth in your presence except for her to let you know that you have no chance.

 

[thedude4242]

I wont use AIM anymore. it is for like kids. get rid of the AIM. its hard to tell what people actually say through this ****.

 

[tony-montana]

There are situations where a girl with a bf is interested in a new guy and looking to branch swing.

In this situation she's using you as an emotional tampon. Every girl I've ever hooked up with that had a bf or eventually left their bf, RARELY if ever, brought up their bf.

If she brings him up once, no biggie, but if she's talking about him in detail, whether its good or bad, YOU are in the friend zone dude.



PIMP

yeah, she only ever mentioned it that one time in full detail like that. she never talks about him at all. sometimes she just says the word boyfriend to other ppl in the chat room (not msn). but not in pm to me. here's a few things she's said to me recently:

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1.

me: now ur only friends are on the internet
her: lol
her: not entirely
her: i hardly have friends on here =p
her: i have my bf though
her: um
her: things aren't so great with that situation
her: BUT i'd be alot worse off if i didn't have him
her: just knowing how anti social i am -_-


that's pretty much the only other time she's mentioned her bf. that and the other post i made above.

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2.

her: you owe me like 90 hugs now
me: why lol
her: IRL, retard
her: <3
me: hah yeah.
me: let me just hop on a plane
her: kewl
* her waits
me: and whip some bucks out my ass.
me: lol
me: well if it ever happens. you will get 91.
her: i'll be in *** (my state-where i live) at some point
her: no need to get agro on me
her: jesus
her: !!
me: >=/
me: theres only two beds here
me: you'll have to share mine
her: will i fit?~
me: THRee oF You CouLD FiT oN THeRe

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2.

her: but if i have a concussion
her: which i'm sure i do
her: i'm retarded++
me: ur a hot retard though
me:
her: soon to be dead hot retard D:
me: stop talking like this
me: its making me sad
her: i'm mostly kidding
her: i theenk
me: i love youuuuuuuuuu
her: you say that to all teh girlz
me: no i dont actualy
her: promise?
her: >=(
me: pinky promise
me: i wish i could hold you though
me: so you felt better.
me: nice back rub for ya
her: now you're teasing
her: ;p
her: <3
me: it wont be teasing when i do it for real.

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i realise the last part sounds a bit AFC. i wasn't actually being serious when i said i loved her.. we just say that to each other all the time. i do like her so far... the next move is to meet her i guess. but i don't notice when i'm talking to her. i get caught up in it. p.s: she is VERY pretty... and her bf is one ugly scruffy fat lookin fella.

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[f283000]

Seriously what is up with you guys? can't you talk to single girls? there is an endless supply of single girls out there why do you have to go around waiting for sloppy seconds from one that is already with a bf?

I'm tired of this $@#%^@. You mother#$^# deserve what you get! You spend your time chatting and being emotional tampons for girls with bfs when you could be out there in the field sargin for women. Seriously all the time you spend chatting on the net with these girls could be spent sending messages to single girls on dating sites. That is time better spent on the internet than chatting hoping to snatch away a girl from her bf.