"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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She had a boyfriend, now i have no idea

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Met someone in December, asked her out and she said she had a boyfriend. I gave my usual response "call me when you break up". Haven't heard from her in 7 months. Today got a text saying hi. My replies were all short, but she didn't mention anything about getting together or the boyfriend. Just went back and forth twice. We are registered for the same class starting in September. No need to put up the convo.

Do I:

1. Ask her out again?
2. Ask if she still has a boyfriend?
3. Do nothing until she mentions hanging out.
4. Never respond again.

The last time this happened the girl told me "well you told me to call when I was single...."

I'm leaning toward #3.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Krueg

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I would keep the conversations casual and play things by ear. Don't want to seem eager/desperate and rush into things.
 
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Woah, I didn't ask you if you were looking for an upgrade

If she texts 'Hi,' reply with 'did you win the lottery?'

If you have't been in contact for 7 whole months, she is throwing out some bait. You ALWAYS want to know where you stand with a chick. Ask her out. Don't beat around the bush, make your intentions clear.
 

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Her :"I have a bf"
You :wow your crazy and moving to fast

3 yes play it by ear I know u have other plates in general so just keep be gold and update us
 

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fvck it. she said no once.she had her chance. she probably wants to use you in some way.
this has happened to me a lot.

girl says no,
i say "fvck it" and go practice snaking in mario kart,
girl texts/e-mails after 6 months saying hi.....

then after 2 weeks...wait here comes the punchline
"hey , can you please do me a favor? :)"

^ btw they always somehow fit in a smiley in there somewhere, every.fvcking.time.

so to sum up this is the formula
<<hey/hi ,blah blah blah . :) >>

usually after i get such message i reply by :whats in it for me??? :)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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LorenzoVonM

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BeginningDJ said:
If you have't been in contact for 7 whole months, she is throwing out some bait. You ALWAYS want to know where you stand with a chick. Ask her out. Don't beat around the bush, make your intentions clear.
This. I would go a step further though and invite her to your place so she is in isolation. Anything other than a yes gets the ignore.
 

Plutoman

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What BeginningDJ said.

Who cares if she blew her chance. Grab a notch on the belt and move on. I'm presuming she looks good enough to warrant a notch. And if so, let go of the ego and take it. Doesn't mean you gotta lock down and date the damn girl. Just be clear about asking her out - and really, you don't know each other, she didn't know you, she had a boyfriend, wasn't willing to cheat - whaddya expect? Now she's free, and she's hitting you up. Take it, man, I wouldn't judge her for sticking with the familiar for a while.
 
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