"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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She had a boyfriend, now i have no idea

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Met someone in December, asked her out and she said she had a boyfriend. I gave my usual response "call me when you break up". Haven't heard from her in 7 months. Today got a text saying hi. My replies were all short, but she didn't mention anything about getting together or the boyfriend. Just went back and forth twice. We are registered for the same class starting in September. No need to put up the convo.

Do I:

1. Ask her out again?
2. Ask if she still has a boyfriend?
3. Do nothing until she mentions hanging out.
4. Never respond again.

The last time this happened the girl told me "well you told me to call when I was single...."

I'm leaning toward #3.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Krueg

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I would keep the conversations casual and play things by ear. Don't want to seem eager/desperate and rush into things.
 
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Woah, I didn't ask you if you were looking for an upgrade

If she texts 'Hi,' reply with 'did you win the lottery?'

If you have't been in contact for 7 whole months, she is throwing out some bait. You ALWAYS want to know where you stand with a chick. Ask her out. Don't beat around the bush, make your intentions clear.
 

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Her :"I have a bf"
You :wow your crazy and moving to fast

3 yes play it by ear I know u have other plates in general so just keep be gold and update us
 

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fvck it. she said no once.she had her chance. she probably wants to use you in some way.
this has happened to me a lot.

girl says no,
i say "fvck it" and go practice snaking in mario kart,
girl texts/e-mails after 6 months saying hi.....

then after 2 weeks...wait here comes the punchline
"hey , can you please do me a favor? :)"

^ btw they always somehow fit in a smiley in there somewhere, every.fvcking.time.

so to sum up this is the formula
<<hey/hi ,blah blah blah . :) >>

usually after i get such message i reply by :whats in it for me??? :)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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BeginningDJ said:
If you have't been in contact for 7 whole months, she is throwing out some bait. You ALWAYS want to know where you stand with a chick. Ask her out. Don't beat around the bush, make your intentions clear.
This. I would go a step further though and invite her to your place so she is in isolation. Anything other than a yes gets the ignore.
 

Plutoman

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What BeginningDJ said.

Who cares if she blew her chance. Grab a notch on the belt and move on. I'm presuming she looks good enough to warrant a notch. And if so, let go of the ego and take it. Doesn't mean you gotta lock down and date the damn girl. Just be clear about asking her out - and really, you don't know each other, she didn't know you, she had a boyfriend, wasn't willing to cheat - whaddya expect? Now she's free, and she's hitting you up. Take it, man, I wouldn't judge her for sticking with the familiar for a while.
 
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